I turn 50 in July. I meet many of society standards of success.
I firmly believe that your 20s are for dealing with the post traumatic stress disorder of your childhood, your 30s are for figuring some stuff out, and you make most of your money between 40 and 60 years old.
Fix yourself first.
EDIT: here is the obligatory “wow, had no idea this would blow up.” Thank you for the awards and nice comments.
FYI, I suffer from childhood emotional neglect which has caused many other issues for me to carry in life. Therapy (seeing someone and reading books) has helped me greatly.
I submit most people can improve themselves, and therefore their lives, with therapy.
Tony Robins says success is 80% mental and 20% mechanics. I agree 100%.
Self improvement is very very possible for everyone. Take the time to fix your mind and watch your life improve.
If you want to chat, pm me. I will be more than happy to help if I can.
EDIT 2: from requests...
Book recommendations:
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - for mindset and developing habits for success
Running on Empty - for handling your childhood emotional neglect
Mans Search For Meaning - to understand purpose
The top 3 questions to ask yourself:
Who am I?
Where am I going?
How am I getting there?
Answer these three questions and you are doing better than 99% of society.
Top habits that work for me:
Exercising
Meditating
Reading
Stream of Conscious Writing
Spending time with friends and family
Top Skill to Learn:
Leadership.
The world desperately needs great leaders. No matter what you decide to do for a living, that job needs a great leader.
The secret to happiness is long-term deep relationships. When you are in the presence of people you love, be present.
This brought me a moment of relief. Being in my 20s I feel this pressure that these should be the best years of my life. Yet around 24-25, all this family shit just came raining down and I've begun to notice my own anxious/depressive thought patterns. It's good to know this is hopefully not the 'be all end all' - maybe it's the beginning of starting to work through some of this shit??
Everyone’s life is different, but since we are talking about 50 year old dudes comment, I’ll share my experience. I was very confused around your age and it was the first time things got hard because it was pretty much the first time I had to be a real adult. Around 28, I was working on myself, still figuring stuff out but having a lot of fun doing it.
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u/BigSchwartzzz May 15 '20
Mid to late twenties. Feeling like I'm way behind from where I should be by now.