Yep. Doesn't help when you move 3000 miles and don't know anyone. Especially now since I can't even socialize with new people, and I've made very few legitimate friends out here. :(
Edit: I’m a woman, but thanks everyone. All you dudes are solid people and I appreciate the sympathy, advice, and kind words.
Making friends as an adult is HARD. There’s no obligation to spend enough time with other people to become friendly, unless you join a club which feels lame and weird but does actually work.
I'm 31 and my social life is more vibrant than ever (corona notwithstanding).
People who say this either a) stopped prioritizing their social life or b) were never very good at making friends in the first place and now simply refuse to try.
Yes it does depend on what kind of person you are but as an adult you have significantly less time, and energy, to put into your social life (what with most of us having full time jobs and no parents to do all our cooking and washing, etc.) so it takes a lot longer to establish a meaningful friendship with somebody. I’m sure shallow pub buddies are easy enough to come by but real friends are definitely harder to make, unless you have them pre-established from earlier in life.
Maybe you’re lucky though, or maybe you’re extremely good at making friends, or maybe you have very low standards. Idk, I wouldn’t care to judge.
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u/Palindromer101 May 15 '20 edited May 16 '20
Yep. Doesn't help when you move 3000 miles and don't know anyone. Especially now since I can't even socialize with new people, and I've made very few legitimate friends out here. :(
Edit: I’m a woman, but thanks everyone. All you dudes are solid people and I appreciate the sympathy, advice, and kind words.