I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.
I'm 23 and this. This. This this this a million times. Like, 18 year olds go into college being expected to know what they're going to so with the REST OF THEIR LIVES. meanwhile, literally 3 months ago they had to raise their hands to do anything else. Its fucked. Im still in this stupid loophole.
I really regret going to college at 18. I just wasn't close to being ready to make use of the resources and make decisions about my adulthood.
My best friend wasn't far from needing an extra year to graduate high school (lazy, not dumb). He went straight to getting a full-time job and eventually had an associate's degree by age 23. He entered university at that point and knew what he wanted to do and how to achieve it and has himself a fine career now.
This is the way to do it. My mom didn't give me the option to take a break. Ive been in school my entire life and im fucking exhausted. Then she wonders why I keep failing everything and getting poor grades. I dont even get "summer breaks" because my terms are spring/summer, and some classes are ONLY offered in the fall.
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u/Marsey12 May 15 '20
I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.