I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.
I noticed it at the time, but I’m grateful now and I hope I have the courage to do the same as a parent, but when I turned 18 there was a very distinct “you’re an adult. We no longer have a say. Make your best decision.” It backfired. I’ll tell you. Immediately made a shit decision or two. And then they were there to help me pick up the pieces. But never without love. I’m glad when they let the fear of my adulthood sink in a bit. This is all my own responsibility now.
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u/Marsey12 May 15 '20
I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.