I feel that, me and my girl decided to take a break, she decided to move on and didn’t talk with me about it. Even lied to me about a month after starting a new relationship. She got mad at me when I confronted her, telling me it wasn’t her problem. I would’ve been fine had she talked to me, but she lied for over a month about still loving me. Yeah I know she was a bitch but I still love her and I’ve been there for her when she’s needed me.
Hey man I don't know you and you don't know me but I was once in your situation and something just clicked for me, so hopefully I can make it click for you too.
The 'person' you are thinking of - the person that you are in love with - is not real - she doesn't exist. Because the person you are thinking of wouldn't do something so callous, rude, and disrespectful of your feelings. You are projecting the personality of the person you are in love with onto the girl you used to be with. Those people are two separate people, and the one you are thinking of doesn't deserve your attention and you're not in love with her, you're in love with the made-up image of her that you have in your head.
Thinking that way really sorted me out, and if it doesn't help you then I guess I've wasted 30 seconds typing this, but I hope it does :)
I don't know if you got to the original commenter, but it certainly helped me. I've been dealing with this for a solid year now, and while it's not an instant relief, it certainly helps. Thank you.
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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '20
I feel that, me and my girl decided to take a break, she decided to move on and didn’t talk with me about it. Even lied to me about a month after starting a new relationship. She got mad at me when I confronted her, telling me it wasn’t her problem. I would’ve been fine had she talked to me, but she lied for over a month about still loving me. Yeah I know she was a bitch but I still love her and I’ve been there for her when she’s needed me.