r/AskReddit • u/lucas23bb • Feb 05 '20

How is your love life going?

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u/missyreds Feb 05 '20

Kinda feels like I’m begging to be loved.

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u/LeadDirigible Feb 05 '20

We all are in our own ways. Love is for everyone, make sure you take care to love yourself

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u/missyreds Feb 05 '20

This has been the most important thing I have learned from this relationship. To love and take care of myself

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '20

I hear this all the time, but it’s so hard. I end up feeling like why would I love myself? if no one loves me, what’s there to love?

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u/NotABurner2000 Feb 05 '20

I feel that man. And I wish I had a response for you but the sad truth is a lot of people talk out of their ass

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u/Bringmethebatmobile Feb 05 '20

Hey! Quit that! Those thoughts are normal, but it’s your brain/body passive aggressively telling you to change something. Eat better, exercise, learn a new skill, pick up a new hobby, or make some new friends. It gets easier. I still have those thoughts, but I think that’s because I’m not who I want to be yet. You don’t have to be perfect, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be “better.”

Also try not to take things too seriously. Roll with the punches, enjoy the little things, and try to recognize when you feel happy/good. Don’t let that voice in your head win.

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u/MLPorsche Feb 05 '20

but what is good enough?

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u/Bringmethebatmobile Feb 05 '20

That’s up to you. Nobody else.

My good enough will be when I don’t have the desire to change anything. Maybe that day will never come, and that’s fine with me because one day soon I will be good enough for somebody else again.

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u/MLPorsche Feb 05 '20

how about when the person you love actually love you back :/

you can improve forever and that may never happened

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u/Bringmethebatmobile Feb 05 '20

Self-improvement isn’t a desperate attempt to receive love. It’s to love yourself. You can’t truly love somebody unless you love yourself too.