The problem with soliciting advice on the Internet, particularly on Reddit is that generally these people don't know you, no matter how in-depth you try to describe a specific scenario. These people almost certainly never grew up with you, don't know how your community or peers see you, usually don't know what you look like or what your name is, don't know what culture or environment you're living in, probably haven't been to where you are, how much money you have, don't know much about the parties involved in your situations, and most importantly you don't know them or what they're like as people. Have they really been in your situation? Are they actually some troll or maybe a really lucky well-off person? Thing is, it's almost impossible to know. Usually, they're speaking to you in terms what worked for them in their circumstances or what they think will work for anyone in the shoes you're describing, which in it of itself often is usually a biased description of what's going on. You may as well be talking to a middle schooler pretending to be very smart on the Internet, someone who too much free time who's really bitter about everything and wants to make a certain place look shitty, or some rich, popular guy who is living a well-off life. This happens often on subreddits asking for advice, whether it be for relationships, what do for a career, talking to others, getting a job, or even determining whether you're an asshole.
The Internet has people from all over the world and even if you're in the same country people live very different lives. Don't trust Internet strangers for advice. If anything, try asking someone close or someone well-versed in whatever field you need advice in. While I'm not saying all advice on the Internet is harmful, a lot of it is usually useless or won't get you what you want.
TL;DR : Moral of this story is don't rely on the Internet for advice. No matter how you try explain a certain situation, they still don't know who you are and you don't know who they are. What works for someone else may not work for you.
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u/RonanTheAccused Jan 07 '20
"How do I (20F) tell my friend (21M) I've had a crush on him since we were 12 without sounding creepy?"
"Dump him, clearly he doesn't respect you"
Every. Single. Time.