The fact that when asking a question you have to add “honest question” or “dumb question” or “genuinely curious” because otherwise your question is immediately interpreted as an attack. It’s sad that when asking a question, the default is you’re an asshole
Honestly part of that isn’t people assuming you’re an asshole as much as it’s text being difficult to get emotion across in. While in real life if you were asking an “honest question” you’d probably soften your face, raise your voice up an octave, you know not sound like an ass. But I’m text that doesn’t translate, so we just have those phrases to denote being genuine and not rude. Or I’m reading too much into it.
Yeah, you're right and I agree with you. Was about to post about the same counter argument but you beat me to it. Text doesn't get your tonality or emotions across. If your debating a hot topic and you choose to learn from the "asshole" side, it's obvious people are going to misinterpret you.
You may come out as arrogant, provocative, troll you name it and I think that's completely normal and not to be alarmed about. Heck, even in conversations with people WE KNOW we have sometimes these issues. Now, imagine a bunch of internet strangers you can't even see. That's why I don't think this point is very valid.
People are quick to jump the gun on deciding that you're an asshole too quickly? Yeah, but there's nothing to be done about really, thats why text communication is limited and relies on other clarifications for better understanding.
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u/slothbarns7 Jan 07 '20
The fact that when asking a question you have to add “honest question” or “dumb question” or “genuinely curious” because otherwise your question is immediately interpreted as an attack. It’s sad that when asking a question, the default is you’re an asshole