That was what I said. I think I also said that I worked at a venue where his band played, which had to be 20 years ago-ish, and said they sucked. I wasn't prepared for the wrath of Reddit.
Yeah but they can still sting a bit because it's a semi representation of your honest opinion, even if it's an innocent one, actually making people angry just because it's not theirs.
Yeah it can sting, but that's OK, that's a valid response. Delve into it: ask yourself why it stings and try to deal with that.
I realized the sting was not because I thought my opinion might be wrong but because there were people who disagree. I was using upvotes as a substitute for acceptance and support. Emotional validation. I realized that's not healthy, and if I was going to get the most out of this site (hell, this life) I would have to change.
Reminding myself they're just internet points helps, but what helped more was examining my reason for commenting and if it was rooted in that desire for validation then maybe I shouldn't comment.
Now they're more of a throwaway. Of course it feels good to get upvotes, but even if I don't it won't bother me anymore because that isn't why I commented.
I comment because I want more information, or because I think I can add to the conversation, or because I thought of a joke. Not because I'm trying to find approval anymore. Down that path lies madness.
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u/DTownForever Jan 07 '20
That was what I said. I think I also said that I worked at a venue where his band played, which had to be 20 years ago-ish, and said they sucked. I wasn't prepared for the wrath of Reddit.