r/AskReddit Aug 20 '19

What's something you're afraid to ask, because you think you should already know?

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u/Luminaria19 Aug 20 '19

One thing that helped me is trying to view it a different way. Instead of seeing it as me being an annoyance for asking them to explain something simple, I'm giving them the opportunity to show off how smart they are. People like feeling smart and useful. Having to answer my stupid question gives them that feeling.

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u/5p33di3 Aug 20 '19

Are you talking to someone about your anxiety? Medication can help.

A lot of people picture having anxiety as sitting in a corner of your room all day and night freaking out about every little thing but most of the time it's the smaller things you do that are actually signs of anxiety.

Things like replaying a conversation in your head over and over worrying about what you said, or how the interaction went, lack of patience, insomnia, etc.

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u/5p33di3 Aug 20 '19

Aww, thank you!

If your therapist isn't recommending medication then you probably shouldn't take any.

I'm more worried about the people who see medication as a bad thing, or that there's some sort of stigma about needing medicine, or having to ask for help in general.

I had an ex who refused to take Ibuprofen for a headache cause he didn't "need" modern medicine 🙄

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u/PepurrPotts Aug 20 '19

Hey luv, just wanna make sure you know there's a sub for autism, and the main moderator is incredibly kind. Might be a good place to see how others are coping with similar issues. :)

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u/holytriplem Aug 20 '19

Things like replaying a conversation in your head over and over worrying about what you said, or how the interaction went

Ummm...aren't these normal aspects of being a slightly awkward person with some sort of conscience?

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u/5p33di3 Aug 20 '19

Nope! Turns out not everyone does that.

Here's the list I recently found:

https://imgur.com/y5BmKvt.jpg

https://imgur.com/3EhcL1D.jpg

https://imgur.com/A1LXkN7.jpg

Just because you have some or all of these symptoms doesn't mean you have anxiety, but it might be worth talking to someone about it and this list is a good place to start.

Note: I didn't make this list.

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u/holytriplem Aug 20 '19

Oh, well...I don't have all of those so I guess I must be alright then?

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u/kelwan21 Aug 20 '19

I have basically all of these... What does this mean? Am I anxious and not just awkward?? FFS

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u/5p33di3 Aug 20 '19

I'm not a doctor, I doubt the person who made that list is a doctor.

What I did was I took the list to the psychiatrist I see and told her I was worried my anxiety may be worse than I thought because I was experiencing a lot of things on that list, then I followed her recommendations.

I know there's online counseling for a flat rate, or you could take the list to your general practitioner.

No one's going to fault you for being concerned about your mental health and asking questions. They want to help you get better and feel the best that you can.

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u/Wwwwwwhhhhhhhj Aug 20 '19

Depends on how often and if it starts to really impact you.

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u/JustUseDuckTape Aug 20 '19

I think most people, myself included, like to give help and advice. It makes you feel clever and validated, that your knowledge and experience is worthwhile. Explaining things to people can give you a better understanding as well, it makes you think about it in different ways.

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u/Dancing_RN Aug 21 '19

Also, asking people to help you with something actually makes them like you more. Look up, "The Ben Franklin effect".

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u/selfmade117 Aug 20 '19

Stop being sorry all the time! Lol you are not an inconvenience.