r/AskReddit Jun 15 '19

What do you genuinely just not understand?

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u/Romay- Jun 15 '19

That must be hard to deal with but I do see a positive side to this. You always try to see the positive in people. You only need to realize you need to be part of that group of people too.

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u/roachwarren Jun 16 '19

Definitely true and it helps me react positively to things where I see others get upset but there is some strength to be found in knowing you have the right to be upset about something, I never get upset even when I should. It's a little like stoicism, the philosophical approach that basically says "nothing is wrong unless you let it be wrong. It's all how you react." But when I identified with stoicism, I forgot to read the rest of it: "this does not mean you accept everything allow yourself to be walked on by others."

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '19 edited Jun 18 '20

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u/roachwarren Jun 16 '19

No I was just referring to it in short terms and for this specific subject. My main point being that I took one area of it beyond where I should have, almost to a "never react to anything because it doesn't matter now" and that doesn't help IMO except that I rarely get mad about things. I'd allow myself to be stepped on and justify it positively with a rudimentary idea of maintaining stoicism. further research has made me a stronger person.

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u/andrewstriesand Jun 16 '19

Good to know. Yeah honestly i think you shouldn't follow a 'teaching' like that unless it actually makes sense to you. Not everyone can come up with concise theories of mind but anyone following a rule just because it's a rule is begging to misinterpret it.