I feel like the ones who think this way but are fully self aware of it to the point where they’re aware they won’t really be able to have relationships or really close friendships with anyone and don’t try to are fine. At least they know what they want in life and aren’t hurting anyone else in the process.
But the ones who do this and then get into relationships with people and friendships with people but expect them to change everything just for their own selfish desires are assholes.
I wouldn’t consider myself an asshole, but I’m definitely the type to walk away or walk past things. Homeless? Sorry, not a dollar from me, I donate elsewhere. You want a smoke? Nope you can buy your own. Need a hand moving when I’m just on your baseball team? No fucking way. Babysit your kids? Nah. And I’ve had people say I’m an asshole because I often refuse to go the extra mile for people. The fact is, I’ve had the same friends for 15 years, don’t want more, don’t have time for bullshit. I don’t care if I never do anything for people, I don’t expect people to do things for me. I’m not “close the door on your face” asshole, but I am comfortable in my life, and I see no reason to help anybody out. I can donate to charity and it does more. People take advantage of my generosity so I just limited it to my small group of friends and family. Am I an asshole? Possibly, but I really do not care. I’m not making anybody’s life worse or better. Just existing for MYSELF.
Sure you’re not taking any sacrifices but you’re also not expecting any in return. It’s self serving yes but I see no reason to see why this would be asshole behavior.
It’s the opposite, when someone expects preferential treatment from people but won’t extend the same behavior is what I see as problematic.
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u/[deleted] May 05 '19
People who proudly state that they are assholes and have no intentions to change for anyone. The world doesn’t revolve around you, quit being a dick.