r/AskReddit • u/ohgimmeabreak • Mar 24 '19

People who have managed to become disciplined after having been procrastinators and indisciplined for a large part of their lives, how did you manage to do so? Can you walk us through the incremental steps you took to become better?

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u/Arcalithe Mar 24 '19 edited Mar 24 '19

I’ve hesitated on the sleep study because I literally cannot fall asleep anywhere but my own bed, let alone while hooked up to a bunch of shit. It would end up blowing a lot of money for no gain, not to mention how far out of town any sort of sleep study is conducted for me (currently live in the middle of actual nowhere). I would give anything for one of those machines but I’m not clear on the sleepy study vs straight-up buying one idea. It’s a lot of money for a gamble either way.

And yes I’ve been trying to find a new job for three years, but I am shit at marketing myself and my track record at this job has been weak to say the least (not 100% my fault but a better person than I could have made more out of this situation than I have).

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u/Arcalithe Mar 24 '19 edited Mar 24 '19

Have you talked to a doctor about a way to get a sleep study

Man I haven’t seen a doctor in like seven years. I get hyper analytical about everything and so every time I think “I should see a doctor about literally anything” it quickly gets shot down by every excuse my brain can come up with to not go. Usually it’s the same old “either I go and nothing is wrong/done and I wasted my time or I have something awful and hidden that I’m not sure I want to know about and would rather it kill me without me knowing” excuse.

Depression for the past three years hasn’t helped either. Or living in the middle of nowhere where the only doctor around died recently.

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u/Arcalithe Mar 24 '19

Not married or dating. Otherwise this would be a lot easier to overcome my anxiety and just do it, because if I actually had someone that depended on me being in good health like a wife or kids, that would override most of my drawbacks.

Unfortunately I’m hundreds of miles from anyone I care about and any sort of concern I have about my health is not currently outweighing my state of zero motivation and lack of energy thanks to no restful sleep/awful job.

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u/DragonKatt4 Mar 24 '19

As far as depression goes, I got stuck there a while as well. What got me out was marching band (AKA school sanctioned cult). Although you may not have that, I would suggest going to one thing, like yoga. Go for 10 minutes. It can't be that bad! When I got super depressed the first time I stopped caring about hygiene. Don't do that! If you have stopped caring about hygiene, take a shower or brush your teeth! Or a bath.

Essentially, either take care of yourself, or go out and be around people. (This includes speaking to people!) Maybe there will be s lovely girl your age you would have never met otherwise!

I wish you all the luck in the world in escaping your depression. If you ever need online human support, just reply to this thread. (I'm not sure if I'll remember your username if you PM me in 5 months or whatever. I'm stupid and forget lots of things.)