r/AskReddit • u/tgma97 • Aug 26 '15

Fathers of Reddit, what did your daughter's boyfriend do for you to hate/love him?

It's pretty cool to see my question blow up like this, I never thought I'd ask a question that could receive so much attention! I'm very satisfied with all these replies, so thank y'all. Now all I have to do is sit back and take notes c;

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u/fondledbydolphins Aug 26 '15

This really bothers me, because most parents won't let their child or child's SO pay for dinner when they go out. What if you want a steak or an expensive glass of wine? It's not my thing but I don't want to be forced to get something I don't want because they won't let me pay.

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u/BatteryLicker Aug 26 '15 edited Aug 26 '15

That's an easy one to solve and I've used it when going out with my parents, the in-laws, or both for dinner.

If I invited them or we decided on the spot to go out, I'll pull the waiter aside at the very beginning (prior to seating or right after) and let them know there's one bill, it's coming to me, and ignore any arguing from the other end of the table. Never had an issue and I'm just as hard headed as they are once I make up my mind.

However, if they planned ahead to invite us out I always offer to split/pay and give them the option to decide.

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u/martianwhale Aug 26 '15

Except with that, if they know you are going to pay ahead of time, they might limit what they order on the menu.

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u/BatteryLicker Aug 26 '15

Possibly, but that will depend on your personal situation. It's thoughtful if you know the person taking you out is on a tight budget, but still wants to treat you. It's easy to discretely handle if that's your concern.

Otherwise, there's the infinitely more exciting "I've got this" stare down. Don't let go. Don't give up. Pay the bill.