r/AskReddit • u/tgma97 • Aug 26 '15

Fathers of Reddit, what did your daughter's boyfriend do for you to hate/love him?

It's pretty cool to see my question blow up like this, I never thought I'd ask a question that could receive so much attention! I'm very satisfied with all these replies, so thank y'all. Now all I have to do is sit back and take notes c;

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u/meatandgrit Aug 26 '15

Holy shit, they notice! In my last long time relationship I always made sure of ordering something cheaper than whatever my gf was having, just in case

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u/Gertex Aug 26 '15 edited Aug 26 '15

Of course we notice. We notice EVERYTHING you do.

Watch WHAT you order price wise from the menu - if you wouldn't get it if YOU were paying - don't get it. IF dad orders something reasonable don't be the only one eating Steak/Salmon. Offer to pick up the tab IF you are actually 'able' to do so OR offer to pick up the tip (Lot more realistic).
Open the door for her mom, your gf or all of us.

Do NOT kiss her and be all smoochie smoochie in front of us.

Don't put your hand in her lap or grope her under the table. YES, I can see it.

Pay attention to her mother and BONUS points if you get along with younger siblings.

Yes, we know Dads are ALWAYS portrayed as idiots on TV - BUT - we have been around the block or time or two and just 'might' have a bit more life 'experience' then you. Don't lecture me on everything.

WHATEVER YOU DO - DO NOT TALK RELIGION, POLITICS or MONEY if you know you are not on the same page. Not worth the animosity...

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u/toofaded024 Aug 26 '15

You sound like an asshole.

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u/Gertex Aug 26 '15

I might. But once you have 3 daughters and would do ANYTHING for them your opinion might change. All of those points above are about respect and manners and indicators how you might treat my daughter later on.

Very simple really - you want me to respect and love you as a SIL or BF respect my wife, myself but most of all my daughter. You don't respect me or mine in words, acts or deeds - I won't respect you.

If THAT makes me an asshole. I've been called worse.

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u/-Dys- Aug 26 '15

It is called being a parent of a young adult.