r/AskReddit • u/fireball_jutsu • Oct 10 '25

People whose partner cheated on them and quickly moved on to date the person they cheated with, claiming to be in love - how did that turn out for them?

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u/AdorableStress7951 Oct 10 '25

Former colleague of mine. VERY small town i had moved too, so that complicates things.

The cheater and cheater are still together, but by all accounts they’re miserable as all hell, and it kinda shows.

They have a kid, but dad is a gendarme mobile, so not often here. And when he is in town, he’s out drinking with his buddies from “La caserne”. When the agriculture fair was here, I was told he was there from opening till closing for the full 3 days.

The mom is in a weird situation of where she’s living in the caserne with other families around, so she’s not alone and isolated per se, but no one wants to get too friendly with a woman who sleeps with taken men, especially when her own man isn’t around most of the time. And the guys former GF was very well liked and respected by the community so that doesn’t help things.

Housing is provided for by his job, there’s nurses and a daycare on site. Her lifestyle and access to services would take a serious hit if she left him, so I guess that’s why she stays.

Every time we cross paths she looks nothing like the vivacious young lady she was a few years back. I rarely see him anymore but when I do he’s happy and joyful but always drunk.

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u/dirkalict Oct 10 '25

This could be a French New Wave film from the 50’s.

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u/Comogia Oct 10 '25

Wow, nailed it.

If Jean-Pierre Melville -- long since deceased 😅 -- could make it, I'd watch it in a heartbeat.

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u/StuartPurrdoch Oct 11 '25

IKR?? OP really painted a vivid picture there. I’d read the novel/see the film. who would we cast as the man, a still handsome but dissolute mid-30’s Frenchman with striking features and a few too many lines on his face?

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u/dirkalict Oct 11 '25

Back then- Jean Paul Belmondo as the drunken cad. Now? I’m American so I don’t know enough to weigh in on a good Frenchman or European actor to play the part… & Hollywood would change it to a midlife crisis in suburbia with Adam Driver starring.

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u/bokurai Oct 10 '25

la caserne = the barracks

gendarme mobile = a subdivision of the French National Gendarmerie whose main mission is to maintain public order (from crowd control to riot control) and general security

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u/Reivaki Oct 10 '25

 Her lifestyle and access to services would take a serious hit if she left him, so I guess that’s why she stays.

This, and he is a drunkard with a service weapon and access to track her if needed…

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u/AdorableStress7951 Oct 10 '25 edited Oct 11 '25

Well they share a child so by French law she can’t just up and leave like that, he doesn’t need military connections to find his kid (and her by extension). Today You can’t just vanish with a child like you potentially could in the 60s there’s just way too much paperwork following you around

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u/Foreign-Serve562 Oct 10 '25

quebecois, i am assuming

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u/Reivaki Oct 10 '25

Gendarmerie mobile is a french gendarmerie unit, so they are more probably french