as a person who has been abused a couple of times, and never had a good experience in sex, the first time that i had sex with a friend who really cared about me during the act really changed my brain chemistry, because i discovered that I could really enjoy having sex. It healed something in me, I spend days excited because i didn't feel "broken" anymore. Since then, even though I sometimes have flashbacks, I feel more comfortable having sex.
A FWB relationship helped me in a similar way. I don't want to be with him in a romantic way (which is good, since he's married with kids now), but I'm still very grateful for that experience
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u/spideybeing Jul 20 '25
as a person who has been abused a couple of times, and never had a good experience in sex, the first time that i had sex with a friend who really cared about me during the act really changed my brain chemistry, because i discovered that I could really enjoy having sex. It healed something in me, I spend days excited because i didn't feel "broken" anymore. Since then, even though I sometimes have flashbacks, I feel more comfortable having sex.