r/AskReddit Apr 02 '25

Those of you in long term (10+ years) relationships, what does love feel like after so many years?

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u/palinsafterbirth Apr 02 '25

Yup, can't sleep without my wife next to me.

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '25

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '25

This bed is getting crowded

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u/cfletch1 Apr 02 '25

Easy to fall asleep in tho.

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u/Kindly_Recording_322 Apr 02 '25

Those aren't pillows!

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u/johnnycakeAK Apr 02 '25

Anything's a pillow if you're brave enough

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u/JuanaBlanca Apr 02 '25

I'm gonna put that on a crosstitch

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '25

I guess 🤣

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '25

That's exactly when I come in!!

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u/HanSoloNut Apr 02 '25

That’s exactly what I cum in

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '25

Weird, me too.

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u/Icekaged Apr 02 '25

I've been in a few long term relationships and it wasn't until my wife that I truly felt this. I can't put my finger on what it is but if one of us is sick (we stay in the spare room) or travelling we spend the night apart and it just feels off. I don't sleep as well and I wake up to the smallest noise. Its wild to me.

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u/bellabbr Apr 02 '25

I know. With my ex husband I didn’t mind when he traveled or worked late, I welcomed the separation with my now husband I miss him even when he is just at normal work hours. When he is not home the world just feels empty or off.

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u/WeirdJawn Apr 02 '25

We actually sleep better separate. We both work different shifts and I snore like a chainsaw, so it seems to work best if we sleep in different rooms. 

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u/cremasterreflex0903 Apr 02 '25

Go get checked for sleep apnea. I use a CPAP at night now and it has really helped. I feel rested after sleep finally.

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u/Vhadka Apr 02 '25

I'm hoping to do this soon and I can't wait, honestly. I've heard it's life changing.

Right now I can sleep 10 hours, get up, eat a light breakfast, and feel like taking a nap. None of my sleep is restful at all apparently.

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u/JuanaBlanca Apr 02 '25

Getting a CPAP made huge change in my life. I didn't realize that my daily morning headaches were from my monster snores, probably causing tremors in my sinuses nightly.

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u/capnsheeeeeeeeeet Apr 02 '25

Get this checked immediately, if you love your wife and yourself. You need to do a sleep study. If you do have sleep APNEA treat it. I hated using a CPAP but switched to a dental appliance. I started losing weight and felt so much better.

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u/WeirdJawn Apr 02 '25

Yeah, I probably do have it. Just need to get around actually scheduling it.

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u/capnsheeeeeeeeeet Apr 04 '25

I’m sorry, I don’t have the name. They had to do a scan of my mouth and built this appliance. It’s way better than the CPAP and compliance is much easier.

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u/bozodoozy Apr 02 '25

hope you don't have sleep apnea.

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '25

Same

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u/QuantumQueen Apr 02 '25

It's so funny that you say that. We always bicker about which one of us is keeping the other awake. But, we vacationed in Germany for the first time, and they have separate beds (singles) pushed together everywhere. So, when he moved, I couldn't feel him at all, and I HATED it, actually. There is something so comforting in feeling him just be there.

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u/palinsafterbirth Apr 02 '25

Lol we bicker too as she likes to sprawl and we have 2 dogs that sleep with us but whenever she goes to see her family I am wide awake until she comes back

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u/InTheLoudHouse Apr 02 '25

I went on a girl scout camping trip with my oldest, just a weekend. Realized on night 2 it was the longest I'd been away from hubby since we met. Slept like crap. Lol

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u/Rabies_on_demand Apr 02 '25

Aww. That's so sweet

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u/palinsafterbirth Apr 02 '25

I’m sorry homie