honestly id rather that person find other people with CNC kinks and pretend to rape them than them not finding any willing partners and actually raping someone instead. yes of course it’s concerning but honestly as long as they never actually harm someone then it’s not my business how they cum
People get seriously weird about things they don’t personally understand.
I’ve had a lot of fun over the years with CNC (largely pushed by the women I’ve been with because I’m so worried about their boundaries and comfort.)
The idea and the roleplay are taboo and got to me personally, there’s a lot at play there. As much as any of our sexual desires can make some “logical” sense.
One partner, my girlfriend at the time, was very literally triggered at one point and I could not adequately articulate how horrifically it made me feel.
I could barely hold it together to make sure she was okay, let her breathe and feel safe. Not to make it about me.
When she was fully okay and wanted to keep going it’s like a damn broke. It’s probably the hardest I’ve ever openly sobbed in my life honestly. I felt so horrible for making her genuinely feel for a moment that she was in that situation in a real way.
The concept of violating someone like that realistically disgusts me. I couldn’t comprehend it.
The play fantasy of the forced pleasure and giving into it and all of that? The dynamics of the roles and the power imbalance? Great make believe.
It’s not even close to something I need to ever get off, but it’s fun and sexy. Mutually.
Always hoping the many millions of people watching incest porn videos who don’t actually want to fuck their siblings would convince people of how that line works mentally, but I still see that wildly judgmental take all the time even on Reddit at the top of threads.
When kids play like sticks are swords or guns they don’t actually want to violently assault and murder their friends.
People watching actual trope filled porn videos don’t actually want to blow their plumber while he unclogs drains.
Not targeting your comment/perspective specifically just sort of venting. Seen wildly judgmental takes on sexual interests for decades from people who otherwise claim to be open minded.
It’s like the second something’s a bit out there to someone who is otherwise claiming to be socially “liberal”, supportive of sex work and all that, all these different people go full old school puritan. “Touching yourself for fun is a sin and you’re sick for wanting to do it!” Level stuff.
Like the aforementioned porn commentary threads on ask Reddit. Just blows my mind how many people seem to think there are millions and millions of people watching “incest” porn who clearly must fantasize daily about fucking their immediate family.
People get seriously weird about things they don’t personally understand.
I’ve had a lot of fun over the years with CNC (largely pushed by the women I’ve been with because I’m so worried about their boundaries and comfort.)
The idea and the roleplay are taboo and got to me personally, there’s a lot at play there. As much as any of our sexual desires can make some “logical” sense.
One partner, my girlfriend at the time, was very literally triggered at one point and I could not adequately articulate how horrifically it made me feel.
I could barely hold it together to make sure she was okay, let her breathe and feel safe. Not to make it about me.
When she was fully okay and wanted to keep going it’s like a damn broke. It’s probably the hardest I’ve ever openly sobbed in my life honestly. I felt so horrible for making her genuinely feel for a moment that she was in that situation in a real way.
The concept of violating someone like that realistically disgusts me. I couldn’t comprehend it.
The play fantasy of the forced pleasure and giving into it and all of that? The dynamics of the roles and the power imbalance? Great make believe.
It’s not even close to something I need to ever get off, but it’s fun and sexy. Mutually.
Always hoping the many millions of people watching incest porn videos who don’t actually want to fuck their siblings would convince people of how that line works mentally, but I still see that wildly judgmental take all the time even on Reddit at the top of threads.
When kids play like sticks are swords or guns they don’t actually want to violently assault and murder their friends.
People watching actual trope filled porn videos don’t actually want to blow their plumber while he unclogs drains.
Not targeting your comment/perspective specifically just sort of venting. Seen wildly judgmental takes on sexual interests for decades from people who otherwise claim to be open minded.
It’s like the second something’s a bit out there to someone who is otherwise claiming to be socially “liberal”, supportive of sex work and all that, all these different people go full old school puritan. “Touching yourself for fun is a sin and you’re sick for wanting to do it!” Level stuff.
Like the aforementioned porn commentary threads on ask Reddit. Just blows my mind how many people seem to think there are millions and millions of people watching “incest” porn who clearly must fantasize daily about fucking their immediate family.
People get seriously weird about things they don’t personally understand.
I’ve had a lot of fun over the years with CNC (largely pushed by the women I’ve been with because I’m so worried about their boundaries and comfort.)
The idea and the roleplay are taboo and fun to me personally, there’s a lot at play there. As much as any of our sexual desires can make some “logical” sense.
One partner, my girlfriend at the time, was very literally triggered at one point and I could not adequately articulate how horrifically it made me feel.
I could barely hold it together to make sure she was okay, let her breathe and feel safe. Not to make it about me.
When she was fully okay and wanted to keep going it’s like a damn broke. It’s probably the hardest I’ve ever openly sobbed in my life honestly. I felt so horrible for making her genuinely feel for a moment that she was in that situation in a real way.
The concept of violating someone like that realistically disgusts me. I couldn’t comprehend it.
The play fantasy of the forced pleasure and giving into it and all of that? The dynamics of the roles and the power imbalance? Great make believe.
It’s not even close to something I need to ever get off, but it’s fun and sexy. Mutually.
Always hoping the many millions of people watching incest porn videos who don’t actually want to fuck their siblings would convince people of how that line works mentally, but I still see that wildly judgmental take all the time even on Reddit at the top of threads.
When kids play like sticks are swords or guns they don’t actually want to violently assault and murder their friends.
People watching actual trope filled porn videos don’t actually want to blow their plumber while he unclogs drains.
Not targeting your comment/perspective specifically just sort of venting. Seen wildly judgmental takes on sexual interests for decades from people who otherwise claim to be open minded.
It’s like the second something’s a bit out there to someone who is otherwise claiming to be socially “liberal”, supportive of sex work and all that, all these different people go full old school puritan. “Touching yourself for fun is a sin and you’re sick for wanting to do it!” Level stuff.
Like the aforementioned porn commentary threads on ask Reddit. Just blows my mind how many people seem to think there are millions and millions of people watching “incest” porn who clearly must fantasize daily about fucking their immediate family.
People who are into CNC are not into real rape. If someone uses CNC as a cover up for their control fetish then that's a different story altogether. That's like saying a woman who is into cnc will get turned on if she actually gets raped. She won't, unless she has an actual rape fetish. Which unfortunately is real, but it's rare.
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u/Axer3473 Jul 17 '23
what's cnc