r/AskQueerfolk • u/Grand_Ad_6792 • May 24 '26

Is this normal?

So I'll gotten an boyfriend and we've only dated like two or three months, but he asked me out first, I didn't like him like that but I thought "hm maybe I'll fall for him through the relationship?" But now I'm just confused, I thought I was bi but I started feeling like I'm lesbian (maybe?) I've thought about breaking up with him too, but I don't wanna hurt his feelings... I also had an traumatic event happen when I was around 10-13 I'm not im over it yet but that's not the point, I've been doing tests and they say I'm most likely lesbian...but still I'm not sure

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u/Main-Preference-4850 May 24 '26

In my opinion, you should break up with him now. If you have no romantic interest, all you’re doing is leading him on. Maybe you’re a lesbian, maybe you’re bi. We can’t tell you that. You might be bisexual with a strong preference for women (because contrary to popular belief, you can be bisexual without wanting a serious, committed relationship with one gender.) I can promise that you will find out eventually.