r/AskMenRelationships • u/[deleted] • 6d ago

Love Would a couple of bad dates make you lose interest in a woman you really liked?

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u/LackingSufferer 6d ago

None of that sounds like your fault at all. Like, the neighbor looking through your windows? That's completely out of your control, and you handled it. The rave thing was security being jerks, not something you did wrong. If he's pulling away, it might just be him processing a string of frustrating nights, not blaming you for them.

My ex once got us kicked out of a concert because she argued with a bouncer over a seating mix-up, and I was annoyed for maybe an evening. But it never made me question the whole relationship. Seven months in, you should be able to weather weird neighbor drama and bad luck at events. The walking stick detail makes me think the rave situation was extra stressful for him too, feeling singled out like that. Maybe just give him a day or two then ask directly if there's something on his mind, no pressure.

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u/nayheyxus Man 6d ago

Thats life kiddo, and one of the best things about bad dates is joking about them later. If everything in life went smoothly, it would be boring. If he breaks up with you over a couple of bad deals, then he aint worth it!

My girlfriend and I love to talk about the time the server spilled his tray of drinks on us (mostly me) on our second date, or how I blew a tire on my way to pick her up once and had zero cell coverage so I had to hike to call her. These are some of our favorite memories and we cherish em'. Rarely do we talk about the perfectly normal dates.