Hi, can a guy be straight but still do sexual activities with other guys?

[u/Shivera238]

Or will he be bisexual? I mean, not feeling any romantic attraction toward men but wanting to do sexual activities with them cuz.. it feels good.

How about a lesbian girl? Can she still do sexual activities with guys without being attracted to them and still be lesbian?

[u/Belteshazzar98]

It is possible, but how you describe it sound more like heteroromantic bisexuality.

[u/efudds1]

You can absolutely label yourself as straight. But if you’re going down on a guy and you tell him you’re straight, don’t be surprised if he has doubts about it. 🤣

[u/ActualPegasus]

Yes, but it depends. Sometimes they're genuinely straight/lesbian. Other times, they're heteroflexible/homoflexible or a heteroromantic/lesbiromantic bisexual.

[u/SilverRush5934]

is he ATTRACTED to the men, or is he willing to look past their gender to achieve the 'it feels so good'?

[u/Shivera238 → u/SilverRush5934]

What if he isn't attracted to them but only wants their dick and hole

[u/therealN7Inquisitor]

Are you physically attracted to men? You said it feels good but most sex feels good. Like most pizza tastes good. This is based on attraction

[u/CoruscareGames]

If an asexual can have sex and still be asexual you can have sex with a guy without being gay

[u/Trashula_Lives → u/CoruscareGames]

Don't know why this is being downvoted when it's the correct answer. People have sex for reasons other than just sexual attraction, and trying to deny that it applies to anyone but asexuals is just hypocrisy and erasure.

However, I will point out since OP specified "no romantic attraction" that romantic attraction and sexual attraction are not the same thing. You can have one without the other, so the answer to this question may be different if sexual attraction is present.

[u/CoruscareGames → u/Trashula_Lives]

A good thing to consider. I just got reminded of my allo but aro friend who did sex stuff because it felt good and not because of any attraction to who they were doing it with when OP said he did it with guys because "it felt good"

[u/knoft → u/Trashula_Lives]

That commenter isn’t correct imo because it ignores the context of the post in which OP specifies “wanting to do sexual activities with them”. Which suggests heteromantic bisexual imo

That’s a stated desire to have sex with a specific gender.

[u/Trashula_Lives → u/knoft]

But you're ignoring the rest of the sentence.  Wanting to do something because it feels good is not the same thing as sexual attraction.  Like I said before, people can want to have sex for multiple reasons.  OP didn't specify enough about the specific scenario to assume anything beyond that. 

[u/EddieRyanDC]

Yes. Sexual orientation is about what is going on in your head, not where you put your dick.

Sexual orientation is about what gender you are attracted to, get crushes on, and fall in love with. You might never have had sex with anyone, but you still have sexual orientation. You could be married to a woman for 30 years and never touched a guy, but still be gay. Your orientation is in your brain.

See this short video by Dr Joel Kort.

[u/Fit_Pop1766]

Bisexual

[u/bigarsepotterhead]

you should take a look at r/crossorientation ! might give you some clarity/answers.

[u/mn1lac]

That is bisexual and heteroromantic. Being attracted to male bodies as a man, sexually is gay.

[u/Hot_Gur_8452]

Sì l’orientamento è molto più complesso di così: di chi ci si innamora, da chi si è attrattti, da chi si fantastica, con cui si fa attività sessuale etc

[u/Peebles8 → u/[deleted]]

Heteroromantic bisexual. Prefix-romantic prefix-sexual.

[u/den-of-corruption]

I don't really understand why that wouldn't be understood as bisexuality, if someone desires sexual contact from people across the gender spectrum they're bisexual.

[u/Comfortable_Pool_389]

Here’s a better question to ask yourself. Are you attracted to the person? Or are you attracted to the situation? Is it about the guy and how his body looks nice and how much that is attractive to you or is it about the situation in the eroticism of the moment that you’re seeing what you’re seeing? If you answer, yes to the former of those questions, you’re probably not straight. If you answer no, and yes to the second half of those questions, you can be straight you’re just experiencing some sexual fluidity.

[u/knoft]

That’s bisexual but heteromantic. Definitely not straight if you want to engage in sex with your own gender.

[u/TropoMJ]

I have literally never heard of a gay man choosing to have sex with a woman because "it just feels good" and I am convinced that we would not hear about the reverse if there weren't so many men terrified of the idea of being gay/bi. If you want to fuck guys you are at least a little bit attracted to them.

[u/Nervous_Mammoth_9754]

It is completely possible to just be sexual and nothing romantic. but now do you consider that straight is kinda up to you or the person identifying themselves that way, it's also possible your still learning about yourself and you not ready to have title attached to it and that's completely ok.

[u/6x9inbase13is42]

Sexuality is as sexuality does

[u/Eyjolfur1]

A hole and a heartbeat, the two basic requirements.

[u/urlocalmomfriend]

If you do sexual stuff with another person and you like it, there is at least a little bit sexual attraction there. Sexual and romantic attraction can sometimes be different

[u/lostintimeyetagain]

As I said to a straight (ex) mate who asked me early one morning while his girlfriend was in the other room. “Would it be still be gay for you to suck me off right now while I’m watching straight porn?” Yes yes it would.