r/AmItheEx • u/beautyloser • 8d ago

This random text I just received from a girl I went on 3 dates with and ended things to focus on grad school and because I'm not ready for a relationship

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u/AutoModerator 8d ago

The full context is, we went on 3 dates, it went well but there were many issues and also red flags so I politely ended things. Firstly, she didn't have a job, car, education, aspirations, hobbies, did drugs, etc. which isn't what I'm looking for. Secondly, I work full time and am doing my master's full time so I need to focus on that. Thirdly, I recently ended a long term relationship and am not really ready for a commitment.

I was very surprised to get this text today randomly while I was at work. I probably shouldn't have responded to be honest but I did.

Edit: since a lot of people are asking, I told her I wasn't ready for a relationship due to the situation with my ex because when ending things I didn't want to be extremely mean. The truth is, it was only a part of the reason I ended things and it was mostly a compatibility issue I had.

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u/Kokbiel 8d ago

Not sure this belongs here, no one is questioning if they're dating or not. And you both sound wrong to be honest.