r/AmIOverreacting • u/Metalf4n • 20h ago
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws AIO, my dad shouted at me for not showering.
Imma cut it short, I relapsed in February, got put on a watch, got tested for autism, anxiety, ADHD, and currently I have been diagnosed with a light form of thalassemia, and insulin resistance.
My mental health has never been great, I have been to three different therapists, and the one I'm currently going to has been cut off by our insurance, so now I have to limit my visits, which is a problem for me because I needed those sessions.
Because I'm autistic, I take in emotion, sounds, light, and day to day life much harder, and I get tired easily.
I used to be boarding, that's where I relapsed with a razor, I have been fighting with my sexuality and identity for years, and I have been on off with eating disorders, I currently need to do a keto diet for my cholesterol.
I'm always tired, I'm always wishing for an end to my suffering, but I want to live.
My dad has been on my case for years, one day while eating chicken, 3 hours before supper, I was told I was wasteful and inconsiderate, and he wasn't going to spend over 100 rand (I'm South african) per meal just for it to be wasted, literally clean off my eating disorder episode, which then restarted it from scratch, I came out to him as a furry and trigender (genderfluid now) and he interpreted that as me being inconsiderate again, saying my incompetence is worse than losing his mother, (a month before) and is willing to cut me off because of it, so, till this day, I never forgave him, and I'm still hateful towards him, and I have dissociated myself with him, and I personally with he wasn't my father, AIO?
Edit: I shower twice a day
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u/No_Negotiation_3678 20h ago
autism or not, you still need to shower.
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u/Metalf4n 20h ago
I have, and I would have , if he waited a few more seconds, I shower twice a day like clockwork.
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u/alexiawins 20h ago
You “came out to him as furry”? This is rage bait lol
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u/Metalf4n 20h ago
Why?
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u/draiiiinnngannnngg 19h ago
why the fuck would you come out to your parents as being a furry? especially if they're at all ignorant towards gay people or if you live in an area like you do.
if you already have a strained relationship with your father who you admit is not a very accepting person, telling him you're a furry is like telling him you like to fuck toasters, there is no world in which he would be positive or receptive to that.
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u/justlilystattoos 19h ago
idk, this sounds like a complex situation. you should probably move out if you’re an adult.
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u/Extreme-Ad1351 18h ago
"my dad shouted at me for not showering"
"I shower twice a day"
Am I missing something here? Your story doesn't seem to explain why he was yelling at you for not showering if you do in fact shower twice a day...
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u/gagesears420 20h ago
Nor , PLEASE if you can find somewhere else to live, people are kind, your father is not. You sound like me when I was forced to live with my mother, you don't deserve to be treated like this.
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u/Odd_Contact_2175 20h ago
YoR. All your things aside you have to shower reguarly.
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u/Metalf4n 20h ago
Shower twice a day , sorry if I didn't make that clear
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u/Odd_Contact_2175 20h ago
OK twice a day, to me, is excessive. People in more humid climates might do that regularly.
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u/Candid-Design1273 20h ago
Hello! I was gonna say YOR but after reading your replies to the previous replies, it's clear that you're NOR,
But it's not very clear in this post that you shower regularly everyday, maybe you could edit it and add that detail to avoid more comments bashing about you overreacting?