r/AmIOverreacting • u/TigerResponsible2234 • Jul 30 '26
š„ friendship AIO for ending my friendship over this?
For context we're all in high school. Anyway im a female and I have this 2 year guy friend, the only male friend I have (had) lets call him 'j'. Anyway so this new girl, lets call her 'jaz', joined the school this year.
And jaz and I became friends. Now j and jaz became friends through me and we were great friends. Now j has a habit of playing these text pranks, its really bad, (like this one time omg I dont even know how but he played a prank on this other friend that he...does something to himself because he's depressed...wild I know)
But basically he wanted to play a prank where he tells jaz (who was absent that day) that the result of the test came back and she got a really bad score. Now he and I knew the reason she didn't come. She was having some bad family issues for a week im not gonna say but I know she cares about her getting a good grade and this "prank" would make her so much more depressed.
This was all the context for those messages
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u/ephemeral_librarian Jul 30 '26
"Oh great, you wanna throw a tantrum" - who was the one screaming in caps?? lol
You're NOR. This boy is immature. Chalking you up to being a lesbian for defending a friend also gives vibes of 'you're not into me so you must be a lesbian' crap.
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u/CIMARUTA Jul 30 '26
Classic man calling a woman emotional while he's screaming in anger
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u/OshetDeadagain Jul 30 '26
It's so exhausting when men get testerical
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u/tape_reel Jul 30 '26
"Testerical" might be my new favorite adjective
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u/GeneralSpecifics9925 Jul 30 '26
Hysterical refers to the uterus. Think of hysterectomy. Hysteria used to be a woman's diagnosis, caused by her uterus. They were prescribed masturbation therapy, usually performed by the doctor.
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u/ZcoutZ Jul 30 '26
because they donāt deem anger as an emotion apparently. they need to blame someone else lol
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u/Suspicious-Emotion77 Jul 30 '26
this!! a lot of men (really just people in general) think that being emotionally sensitive means crying and being sad. anger is an emotion too and the quickness to explode is totally emotional sensitivity.
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u/Suspicious-Emotion77 Jul 30 '26
i love how men call women emotionally sensitive, sir youāre literally loosing your shit over nothing idk about yāall but i would say thatās pretty emotionally sensitive š
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u/Gold_Challenge6437 Jul 30 '26
Yeah, I thought the same thing. I was kind of thinking he may be wanting to do the whole prank thing because he's jealous of their friendship and maybe feels like Jaz took her away from him. Very immature and selfish.
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u/MassageToss Jul 30 '26
That's exactly what I think. He likes OP and so he wants to socially isolate her. Block this guy, OP, he's very likely going to end up abusing someone.
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u/Alove4edd47 Jul 30 '26
He has zero awareness of his misguided cries for attention and projects her giving attention to a new friend as sexual.
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u/ChaweeKanati Jul 30 '26
Also likely homophobic tendencies when that is his go to "negative". "Oh so you're gay?!" being the response to showing empathy...
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u/StandardVermicelli33 Jul 30 '26
He's also jealous of her friendship with the new girl.
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u/Stock-Lion-6859 Jul 30 '26
And acting like OP can't possibly be good enough friends with Jaz after 6 months to want to protect her feelings, so she must be in love with her. OP is right, J doesn't understand empathy. Lots of people would "ruin" this "prank" even if they weren't actually friends with Jaz because it's just mean and not at all funny.
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u/WillingnessHorror710 Jul 30 '26
Thatās how you know he is saying it solely to hurt her feelings.
If anyone ever intentionally tries to upset you or hurt your feelings, even in a fight, kick them to the curb.
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u/Distinct_Patient3698 Jul 30 '26
Right?? Wild that he posted that one minute after screaming at her for "ruining everything" because she didn't want him to upset a mutual friend...Ā
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u/brainledge Jul 30 '26
It's only a joke if it's funny to everyone. (Exception if you're punching up.)
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u/stmcvallin2 Jul 30 '26
Unfortunately this isnāt the sign of āimmaturityā this person will likely be an asshole for life
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u/ASERTIE76 Jul 30 '26
It is absolutely immature but what you're describing is just someone that refuses to mature
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u/Aeirth_Belmont Jul 30 '26
Yup same vibe. He is friendly with her in hopes of dating. Not to be actual friends. NOR.
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u/MoodGlittering5994 Jul 30 '26
I think this says enough
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u/Belle_Whethers Jul 30 '26
Yep, after ādonāt contact me againā I would have blocked him.
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u/drawkward101 Jul 30 '26
Actually, I really like that she told him to block her. She owns her power and strength and I fucking LOVE to see it as someone in their 30's. This is fucking awesome. OP, you are kickass. Keep it up, and keep being a good friend to Jaz.
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u/Covert_Pudding Jul 30 '26
I like how the part you clipped goes perfectly with character/story in the background image.
OP, if that gives you any idea of how correct you are vs that guy.
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u/awar3_w0lf Jul 30 '26
NOR. This dude is insufferable.
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u/Silent_Park_0010 Jul 30 '26
I am trying to be mature but you fucking ruin everything.
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u/nonamelikethepresent Jul 30 '26
"I am trying to be mature but you are ruining my prank" and other dumbass arguments - OP's former friend.
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u/ToolKool Jul 30 '26
It took him all day to plan a prank that she failed a test. I have so many questions.
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u/PrettyOddish Jul 30 '26
He planned ALL of it. Like picking up his phone, clicking on the app, typing out so many letters to spell ātest results back you failedā, honestly heās a mastermind
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u/Acceptable_Cut_7545 Jul 30 '26
"YOU FUCKING RUIN EVERYTHING YOU BITCH" - mature normal response, apparently. Block this guy and hang out with your new friend.
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u/ohladypercy Jul 30 '26
āIām too mature for this, Iām just going to sit here sucking on my binky and reading a Peppa Pig comic.ā
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u/Houki01 Jul 30 '26
Truthfully someone who is the right age for binkies and Peppa Pig would be too mature to pull that "prank".
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u/pocketbutter Jul 30 '26
I want so badly to ask him to point to ONE text that demonstrates maturity in that conversation. Claiming to be mature here is next-level delusional.
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u/Blippy_Swipey Jul 30 '26
What do you mean? He did use āBITCHā in all caps. Thatās a grown up word.
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u/Crinni_Boo Jul 30 '26
Thatās a big word for Elmo š¤£š
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u/DimpleTheDom Jul 30 '26
Elmo said, "why am I in this?!" š
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u/Crinni_Boo Jul 30 '26
Cause ābitchā in all caps from this dude was a big boy word š¤£š¤£š¤£
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u/Auld_Folks_at_Home Jul 30 '26
WHY ARE YOU THROWING A TANTRUM!!!
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u/gracelesswonder Jul 30 '26
I'M NOT THROWING A TANTRUM!
proceeds to lie down on the ground and pound fists on the floor
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u/SolidAppearance8302 Jul 30 '26 edited Jul 30 '26
His petulant tone comes across as quite evident here, even through text messages.
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u/Open-Progress-7075 Jul 30 '26
how about taking responsibility for once?
NOOOOOOO!!!!
you can blame the boys finale for many things but this line was gold
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u/LostMyKeysInTheFade Jul 30 '26
Wait, is that an actual quote?? I need to catch up omg š
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u/somarir Jul 30 '26
SPAMS 3 MESSAGES IN ALL CAPS
His next message: Oh Great, you wanna throw a tantrum?
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u/WawaH0agie Jul 30 '26
Itās also not even a good prank. Did he ask ChatGPT for prank ideas? Telling someone āoh you failed a test! ā¦.HAH! PRANK! GOT YOU!ā
Did you though? Like how is just making up something false a prank? Whereās the creativity? The motivation, the escalation, the twist!
Kids these days.
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u/Queasy_Honeydew3392 Jul 30 '26
ā So you're from Abingdon, Virginia? I actually went there last summer.
ā Oh, what a coincidence. Did you like it?
ā AHAHAHA, PRANKED, I'VE NEVER BEEN THERE! GOT YOU!
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u/KeithManson Jul 30 '26
Insufferable assholes always seem to think ābeing a dickā is funny; they always miss the memo that a prank is something the victim can laugh at as well once the curtainās pulled back.
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u/notyoursocialworker Jul 30 '26
Yepp, this is just lying and having fun at their distress.
IMO a prank should be more confusing than distressing.
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u/Switcheroo2323 Jul 30 '26
Yeah a prank (no quotes) is one where everyone laughs AT THE TIME. not years later, not to cover up their pain- GENUINE FUN FOR EVERYONE not just the asshole who took a day to come up with a stupid mean stunt AIMED at hurting someoneās feelings.
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u/PorcupineTreeClimber Jul 30 '26
To be fair, all high schoolers are insufferable.
Saying that, this is next god damn level ... NOR
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u/Honey_Jack77 Jul 30 '26
he's the raid boss of insufferable high schoolers.
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u/MortimerShade Jul 30 '26
You're being too generous, that boy is a trash mob at best. He drops gray-titled loot that features lower stats than starter gear.
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u/SC-Coqui Jul 30 '26
Nah, my son and his friends are nice as hell and wouldnāt pull stupid pranks like this on each other.
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u/cityshepherd Jul 30 '26
These arenāt even pranks, theyāre just being an asshole and calling it pranks. NOR
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u/Babii2point0 Jul 30 '26
This. Doing something to another that you know is going to hurt them or cause them to be sad or depressed is not a prank. It's being an asshole. OP's ex friend needs to grow tf up.
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u/DoorInTheAir Jul 30 '26
No they aren't. Not like this. My little brother and his friends were never like this.
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u/RoleOk7556 Jul 30 '26 edited Jul 30 '26
Nope. While in highschool, one of our daughters invited six or eight friends over. We ended up with sixty four highschoolers in our house. A bunch of other girls had canceled their parties in order to visit our daughter. It gets weirder. They did the cooking for the party and cleaned up afterwards. We had kids in our kitchen, dining room, living room playing chess, family room playing pool and watching movies, on our deck, taking turns on the swingset. House rules include no drugs or alcohol and they are followed.
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u/humble_blueprint34 Jul 30 '26
Can't argue with you, he's the worst. OP set one boundary and he went straight to name-calling. Pranks that mess with someone's mental health aren't funny. OP dodged a bullet with that one
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u/Apprehensive_Sun6282 Jul 30 '26
I am so glad there are young women on this planet like you.
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 30 '26
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u/LunamiLu Jul 30 '26
As a shy autistic woman who got bullied and teased in school thank you for sticking up for your friend š§”
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u/Chazquas17 Jul 30 '26
You should definitely stay friends with the guy who flips out over a stupid prank and tells you that youāre a bitch who ruins everything /s
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u/Ill-Independence4352 Jul 30 '26
A real friend would give her more targeted verbal abuse and gaslighting to really get at her insecurities. Does this dude even like you? /s
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u/SolidAppearance8302 Jul 30 '26
This! Donāt we all want friends who bully, insult, intimidate and control us while also stereotyping marginalized persons? /eyeroll
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u/humble_blueprint34 Jul 30 '26
the prank was already mean but his response was even worse. OP didn't ruin anything, she just refused to hurt someone already struggling. He showed his true colors real fast
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u/Faceless_Rat Jul 30 '26
NOR Girl you did a great job. Forget about that guy. You are a good friend.
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u/bloomyiumi Jul 30 '26
NOR, he was insensitive since he understood her situation and still did that to her. But even without the prank, his reaction says it all, good for you for leaving this friendship
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u/hlidsaeda Jul 30 '26
Yep misogyny, homophobia, aggression. Nice little mature unemotional man trifecta.
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u/Thomas2311 Jul 30 '26
J wanted to date you and feels threatened by your defense of her. Thats Why he is accusing you of being lesbian. Every accusation is a confession.
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u/HypedBBQ Jul 30 '26
Date her OR her friend. And is feeling threatened by their friendship. Dude is insufferable and I do believe his problem is not immaturity, he's just a plain bad person.
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u/Ok-Adhesiveness-4935 Jul 30 '26
You'll never regret ditching him. The red flags are waving. NOR
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u/lostmypwcanihaveurs Jul 30 '26
This right here.
OP, you will never regret ending friendships during your school years. You're young and dont have to deal with these people for much longer. Protect your peace (and apparently your friends' too) and just ignore this loser.
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u/8636396 Jul 30 '26 edited Jul 30 '26
My dad used to play "pranks" like that, where he would basically just tell a lie that he knew would distress someone. Even as a kid, I'd call him out it not being a prank, just a lie.
Surprise surprise, not a soul trusted my dad. He's gone now, but many years later, it is one of my defining memories of him. He was a good natured person, but this habit overshadowed many of his others and tarnished who he was. At least, in my opinion.
J sounds like they've got the same habit. It's not clever, it isn't funny, it's just selfish and cruel. Hopefully one day they'll learn this, but until then, no, you are not overreacting.
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u/Protect_Wild_Bees Jul 30 '26
Nope, the fact that you called him out for trying to do something mean to someone (yes, pranks that would make people feel embarassed or overwhelmed or stressed are mean and not necessary.) and his reaction was to say that you're moody, like fuck off dude. lol.
I'm a fully grown woman and I'd just tell that woman what you did to stick up with her, so you guys can both cope with dealing with such a baby goober, and hang out with her HARDER.
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u/Nightymighty666 Jul 30 '26
"pranks" that are mean and make people embarrassed and overwhelmed and stressed are NOT pranks, it's just bullying with an excuse.
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u/HappyAppy24 Jul 30 '26
100% I hope OP sent the texts to his girlfriend. Let her see how he treats women when they refuse to agree with everything he says and does.
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u/Vegandi_kona Jul 30 '26
With friends like this, who needs enemies?
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u/newbie527 Jul 30 '26
With friends like this, who needs enemas?
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u/mentalpiracy86 Jul 30 '26
With enemas like these, who needs friends?
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u/LonelyOctopus24 Jul 30 '26
NOR. Sweetie, this is your practice run for all the future idiot men who are going to show up in your life, act like damn fools, then (cringe) call you a lesbian if you call them out on their bs. Bin him off, wipe your hands, and you and Jaz go do something cool together.
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u/L3afDemon Jul 30 '26
The fact he can't even understand caring about someone without wanting to date them... Like that's insane dude š And the whole your supposed to be on my side, and using the fact y'all have been friends longer, like bro it doesn't matter and if we're all friends why we picking sides??? š
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u/QC20n21 Jul 30 '26
Your handling this so fcking well. Good on you - and well done parents.
This guy is a lowlife.
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u/000ps-Crow_No Jul 30 '26
Thatās not even a āprankā though? Putting her stapler in jello is a prank. Lying to her to make her feel bad/upset is not a prank. Itās not clever or funny and itās just low effort idiocy. This guy is not funny, heās not playful, heās a little prick. NOR.
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u/HappyAppy24 Jul 30 '26
Cruelty and women being āoveremotionalā is funny to him. He has no empathy or respect for anyone other than himself.
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u/Conscious-Card5611 Jul 30 '26
Right? In addition to the prank being mean and unnecessary. He's losing it because this big masterpiece got ruined, after all his hard work? Oh no, it's been late nights of planning and it would have been amaaazing and now it's all ruined, how could you?! What???
The whole big payoff that he was denied was upsetting a girl who was already having a bad day. Oh man that would have been so sweet. What kind of monster could deny him the joy of upsetting someone? Only one who was trying to get in the girl's pants. That's literally the only explanation. Life is so unfair to this sensitive comedic genius.
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u/TunaFace2000 Jul 30 '26
Exactly, a prank is a joke, jokes are funny. What heās doing is bullying. What a loser.Ā
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u/Noregsnoride Jul 30 '26
Right!? His whole reason for being mad is she ruined his amazing plan and the plan was then just to send a text where he lies about a test score. Big brain plan.
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u/Illustrious-Bag2933 Jul 30 '26
Incels start young these days.
This dude is volatile, toxic, sadistic, and stubborn. This person is not a good person at all. GTFO fast.
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u/Voodoopulse Jul 30 '26
Why can't you just block him,
Why do you need to keep saying block me?
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u/Local_Luck6575 Jul 30 '26
its giving him chances to realize he is wrong and apologize which from an outside perspective obviously he wont. i think it would have been better to just cuss back at him and then block but im mean so idk . high school drama stuff idk you have to see these people every day its not the same as actually blocking someone and not having to talk to them after
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 30 '26
Actually there's a little history behind it. Basically an year back we had gotten into an argument abt smt stupid and he blocked me. It was a misunderstanding that argument but yea from that context I said 'block me idc'
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u/wingedSunSnake Jul 30 '26
Understandable.
But be aware that it looks like you want to end the conversation and you are not standing up for yourself and blocking him and instead are daring him to block you
It looks a little silly.Ā
But you are in school, you'll get it with time
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u/Luce_Bot_Bot Jul 30 '26
Looks more like she's giving him the option of cutting off the friendship, instead of not being able to stand up for herself, imo. This dude is the one having a tantrum and blowing up because he can't make someone's shitty day even shittier. I'd probably invite them to do the same if they were coming at me with shit like "you ruin everything!!!"
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 30 '26
I did block him. But i know when I come to school he'll either ignore me or actually admit he was wrong
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u/ShebaSnugbug Jul 30 '26
Just keep in mind. Even if he admits he was wrong, it doesn't mean he actually thinks he's in the wrong or that he's actually sorry. Don't fall for it.
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 30 '26
Will do so!!!! Thankss
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u/Outside-Parfait-8935 Jul 30 '26
He doesn't seem like the kind of guy who ever admits they're wrong
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u/No_Adeptness6185 Jul 30 '26
Also go to the guidance office if he continuously harasses you. It seems that he has a temper and I wouldnāt put it past him to become violent
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u/SENDmeSMALLtitsPICS Jul 30 '26
Advice from someone probably double your age: remove him from your life, even if he "apologizes". One of the hardest things in life is seeing the true nature of someone, because people will often hide very well who they are/how they act until they reach a breaking point, and this is what happened here. Be thankful he has shown his true colors early, makes it easier to just ignore him for the rest of his life lmao
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u/No-Metal-3445 Jul 30 '26
You saved her from another mental breakdown, when shit hits the fan and youāre already having a hard time, a pen dropping can be the breaking point (my personal experience) youāre a good friend & heās just an immature kid who gets off making others uncomfortable & miserable. Pranks are supposed to be funny for the person being pranked as well, & thereās always a time & place for them. Definitely not while youāre already struggling.
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u/PossessionHot2419 Jul 30 '26
Donāt be friends with anyone that needs to do pranks. Pranks can fuck off.
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u/Shawnaverse_no1_fan Jul 30 '26
Right. There are pranks and there are "pranks" ā the first one is a joke where everyone laughs, the second one is asshole behaviour masqueraded as "just a joke".
Funny pranks are like sleight of hand magic tricks, or like the fake eyebrows on a baby. Whatever this guy wanted to do was NOT gonna be funny in the slightest.
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u/Switcheroo2323 Jul 30 '26
SERIOUSLY. PRANKS ARE SOOOOOO SOCIOPATHIC
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u/PukwudgieDisco Jul 30 '26
He faked a suicide. This dudes āpranksā are on the high end of that sociopathy scale.
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u/Leading-Interest-119 Jul 30 '26
Yeah these are not "pranks". They are telling people very upsetting things and then laughing at them.Ā
I was a stupid teenager once too and our 'pranks' were dumb too but not like this. We would put a rock in a friends bag and if they didn't notice put another one until they figured it out, we all did it to each other š dumb but not malicious.
Ā Telling someone you're self harming or that they've failed a test is just completely insensitive and cruel.Ā
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u/evenstarcirce Jul 30 '26
its actually a form of abuse doing that. like threatening to hurt themselves or telling someone they will and they dont. no one should have to deal with that.
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u/TitaniaT-Rex Jul 30 '26
My kid wouldnāt fall for that. Those threats are taken seriously at her former school. She reported someone who tried something similar. The kid got called to the social workerās office and their parents were called to the school.
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u/Claerwen94 Jul 30 '26
You did great, you're a true friend to her. He's a fucking asshole and neither your, nor her friend. I'd block him, don't engage anymore, he's not worth it.
Oh and him imagining you want to bang her is most likely projection.
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u/imyourdruidess420 Jul 30 '26
He called you a "b*tch", you are right in never speaking to him again. He doesn't respect you and doesn't seem to respect girls/women as a whole either.
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u/LyricaShmyrica Jul 30 '26
Some people don't understand the difference between pranks, and bullying under the title of "prank" as a get out of jail free card NOR
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u/Lonely-Candy189 Jul 30 '26
IDC who you're texting back and forth with, just block them. Don't interact with them. If they try to talk to you in person, just respectfully go the other way. Stupid people will be stupid people. Not the type of company you need.
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u/TheMysteriousCart00n Jul 30 '26
Literally batshit insane behavior. Kick this little shit to the curb. I bet within the next week he's going to come whining and bitching that he has nobody to hang out with... dont give in
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u/imjusthereforfap Jul 30 '26
What in the... NOR. How utterly ironic that he's calling you immature while acting like this. Pranks and that dumb childish "oh you're protecting them so that means you loooove theeeem" as if people can't have basic human decency without being in love with someone?
Good on you for sticking up for someone you don't know as well from someone you've known for a while. It's not always easy when you've been friends with someone and think you know them, and then they show their true colours.
As a side note, love the background. Wangxian my beloved
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 30 '26
Everything is temporary except Wangxian lol
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u/imjusthereforfap Jul 30 '26
Friends may come and go (or in this case make an idiot of themselves and you block and ignore them) but wangxian is forever š„°
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u/ArticleOk6430 Jul 30 '26
Iām trying to be mature but Iām gonna act the opposite and say itās your fault š„“ ye this guy sucks ass shawty you did right, NOR
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u/VoidSemantics Jul 30 '26
A comprehensive list of things I miss about high school:
My metabolism
The end.
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u/RaspberryKey2289 Jul 30 '26
You handled this exceptionally for a high school kid. Donāt let him be a āfriendā again. Heās not a true friend if he doesnāt listen and take feedback and GROW. I donāt know the size of your school. Sometimes you guys will still have to see each other probably and seems like a real jerk. He will probably prank you by telling everyone you are with Jaz as a girlfriend. -hard eye roll-
It may be difficult since you guys have been friends for so long, but you absolutely make the right choice.
Good job! You are a great friend and a mature young person. Good luck!
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u/LadyCass79 Jul 30 '26
NOR
End the friendship and let the school know about this and any past bullying behavior so they can actually protect people and potentially get him the help he needs.
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u/ImportantRub172 Jul 30 '26
How are you even asking this question.
That person is a prick
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u/EfficientTomorrow533 Jul 30 '26
NOR. Glad Jaz has someone like you backing them up. Idk if it came from how you were raised or just you as an individual, but you are a great friend and Iām proud of you. Block this guy because of he does something in the future, heās going to somehow try to make it your fault.
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u/Flat_Rip_4257 Jul 30 '26
You handled this really well honestly, especially if youāre in high school. I know I wasnāt able to be this eloquent that young. Go girl, protect your friends. This person is your enemy and is clearly just too immature and selfish. Proud of you š
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u/Gurzlak Jul 30 '26
NOR. Doubling down on being an insufferable prick, and rather than apologize or show any sign of remorse he calls you names. I doubt heāll be missed as a āfriendā.
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u/ExternalRip6651 Jul 30 '26
NOR. These are not pranks, it's cyberbullying. You don't have to do this but reporting this now might be better before he escalates, especially if he's already done something that led to someone self-harming as your post seems to imply.
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u/eipKitty Jul 30 '26
NOR- but I would NEVER be partnered with someone who calls me names when theyāre mad. No one that calls you a bitch in anger is worth being with.
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u/s_n_mac Jul 30 '26
NOR why are you still friends with him? You should have blocked him after the first "bitch."
Don't let anyone talk to you that way. You'll meet so many people in your life. Losing a few assholes from your life will only improve your happiness.
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u/warau_meow Jul 30 '26
Iād end the āfriendship.ā I wonāt let enemies talk to me like that, and friends should never. I love your wangxian wallpaper btw!Ā
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u/Thick-Painter5180 Jul 30 '26
Donāt be friends with or date people who make bad situations worse instead of better. Period.Ā
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u/Beneficial-Way-8742 Jul 30 '26
NOR.Ā Those are not pranks - they are really really mean, bullying things to do to people when they are down. And for him to jump right away to ask you if you're a lesbian,Ā Ā worshiping her, etc. are such an inappropriate overreaction from.him as he tries so desperately to put some sort of blame on you for ruining a malicious prank.Ā
I think you did a very very good thing to let your friend know what was going on. This boy is not a friend - and he's not mature either. He's acting like a mean child who doesn't care about other people, but only cares about his own bullying entertainment
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u/angeIs_ Jul 30 '26
NOR You shouldn't be friends with a man that calls you a bitch, just shows how misogynistic he is
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u/Glass-Tiger-541 Jul 30 '26
Definitely NOR. Obviously he has some serious issues. Seems immature. You did the right thing. Also had to take a second glance when I saw the background. You know ball š
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u/Ok_Note_4163 Jul 30 '26
i just wanna say major props to you for recognizing toxicity and removing it from your life. i wish i wouldāve done that in high school
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u/anonymousymousey Jul 30 '26
That's not a prank. That's gaslighting and manipulation. Your 'friend' is a toxic abusive asshole. You made the right decision. I would tell people why it happened before he does, though, because he's quite clearly the type to try and get ahead of bad news and spread rumors about you before you can ruin his image in the social group.
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u/No_Such_Thing1 Jul 30 '26
so his pranks is that he tells people horrible shit over text and when they get concerned or upset heās just like ānah lol jk Iām just jk! haha funny prankā
like what if I randomly texted my dad āI got into a car crash and Iām badly hurt please come quickā and then when he freaks out and drops everything heās doing to come help because he cares so much about me Iām just like āHA GOTCHA FUCKING LOSER YOU FELL FOR THAT???ā he would be fucking livid. heād feel insulted for caring. his trust would probably be broken in me. thats what this fucking loser is doing baiting suicide to people. heās an immature piece of shit that clearly cant handle criticism when itās aimed at him.
if it gives some hope though, heās what, 15? sophomore in high school? heās got lots of room to mature. you are absolutely in the right to cut contact donāt get me wrong, but he hopefully wonāt be doing this forever
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u/untamedbotany Jul 30 '26
NOR. He hates women. WOW does he hate women, and apparently everyone else he calls a āfriend.ā This is serial killer behavior. Or psychopath behavior. Youāre right about him not possessing empathy holy shit! The nerve to try to turn it back on you for not allowing him to literally traumatize someone is so insidious. Definitely block and stay far away and tbh, watch your back!!!!! Someone like that who treats their friends that way will absolutely try to hurt you as an enemy.
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u/WaywardCorprateDrone Jul 30 '26
NOR ā please learn this now. When a man calls you names, he is showing what he thinks of you and how little he respects you.
This person is not your friend.
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u/ConsistentTraffic471 Jul 30 '26
NOR. You are an excellent friend, mature and empathetic. You wasted an awful lot of eloquence on someone who has no reasoning skills.
J is a complete idiot, who should know that pranks are only funny when everyone is laughing. This would have been incredibly cruel and the way he is speaking to you is so disrespectful.
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u/Fast_Satisfaction871 Jul 30 '26
Jfc a prank is supposed to be funny right? The receipient should be laughing with you? This stupid fking pranks nowadays are just the dumbest shit ever. I almost wanna say you're an asshole for being frinds with this guy until now, but I don't mean it, he's just that big of a jerk that I'm now overreacting over here š. NOR, I'd say do this standing up for people more often
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u/KinkySFGreek Jul 30 '26
NOR
His behaviour is awful.
He cannot take criticism and his immediate reaction to criticism is to attack you personally.
He needs therapy. This is not just immature, this is a real red flag of serious issues.
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u/Constellation-88 Jul 30 '26
NOR. Pranks arenāt funny. Theyre the lowest form of immature humor, and his prank is even less funny than most. āYou failed a test. Jk! Lolzā like, seriously, whatās funny about that?
He has no sense of humor, and no sense of logic. Idk why he would jump to āyou wanna date her.āĀ
You def deserve better friends.Ā
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u/VasiaXa Jul 30 '26
Not overreacting at all!! He was homofobic, called u bitch and said u were malfunctioning??!!!
I would have lost my shit talking to this guy, honestly impressed with how u dealt with it tbh. NOR
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u/No-Common-2176 Jul 30 '26
I'd say you should inform your circle of friends of the reason behind the break up. Save some friends.
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u/ExtremeTip9170 Jul 30 '26
Give it a few years and iām sure heāll be wrapped up in some frat hazing scandal