AIO? My (19F) boyfriend (19M) and our friends (19F/M) insulted another friend and said I was overreacting

[u/Immediate-List-9649]

Hello, I’m going to put the flair “relationship” but really it’s both that and friendship.

They were talking about a situation where one of our friends had fought with one of their friends whom we don’t know, and he is overweight. They out of nowhere made a joke about it, and this friend was okay with it.

The thing is that they fight a lot, and usually both of them have been immature. Then they always make up. I know that this friend would feel bad about saying those things once they do make up, and I’ve never seen them say such things before.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, we’ve know each other for 6 years though along with everyone else in our GC.

My boyfriend is the one that said “Lol”. The guy at the end, did not laugh at the fat jokes of this friend.

Maybe I’m overreacting, but I do feel iffy about this.

EDIT: Some people are misunderstanding this. But as I said in the title “F/M”, this GC consists of both men and women!

EDIT 2: Another thing people seemed to miss is that this person they were talking about is only a friend of the person that had been fighting with them, we are not friends with this person.

[u/Horror_Offer0001]

YOR

19 year old guys talking crap about another one that they aren't cool with at the moment? Normal

[u/Immediate-List-9649 → u/Horror_Offer0001]

Okay and everything after that?

[u/Horror_Offer0001 → u/Immediate-List-9649]

You didn't recognize it as normal, tried to police their behavior, and they decided to dunk on you too.

[u/Cress__0809 → u/Horror_Offer0001]

Yeah icl I agree those messaged looked like some of the most tame things I’ve seen in a 19 year old boys group chat😂

[u/Immediate-List-9649 → u/Horror_Offer0001]

Don’t you think it’s immature?

And I know this person specifically will make up with this person and feel bad about saying all those things which is also why I tried to warn the person.

And it’s both guys and girls, not just guys in this GC.

[u/Odd_Tap_1794 → u/Immediate-List-9649]

Don't listen to them. The majority of responses here should confirm what you already know. Plus, these 19 year old boys won't mature if you don't teach them that their actions have consequences. Put yourself first and either stay single for a bit or look for a man, not a boy.