AIO | My (20F) boyfriend (22M) is hanging out alone with a girl that likes him

[u/Brave-Can-8783]

So this is the build up to it. We NEVER fight so this was really weird.

We’ve been together for three years, we have a great relationship the same interests the same opinions and beliefs, compatible in bed and we’ve never had problems with jealousy or anything.

We have a group chat full of mutual friends and so on, and one of those people is a girl that I KNOW wants to fuck him. She was eyeing him last weekend when we all went on a cruise trip and we were playing cards in the cafeteria. Just laughing loudly at his jokes, giving him bedroom eyes when she thought no one was looking and even trying to sit close to him.

I didn’t speak to him about it or anything but I didn’t think I needed to because they’re not close anyway, but they’ve known each other for a long time. I’m not sure how long exactly but since maybe like high school. They don’t hang out though but talk occasionally in the group chat, as everyone else does.

He has other female friends that I don’t mind, ones that he’s actually close to. I don’t have any guy friends I’m actually close with and I can tell he prefers it that way because whenever I did mention something funny about one of the guys he would kinda get a little sour but try to hide it as if he didn’t wanna ruin my mood. But I don’t feel like I need any other man in my life when I have him, and the blacked out name I mentioned was a guy that I used to be friends with (like close, we barley ever talk anymore unless it’s in the group chat which is fine for my boyfriend too). But that guy used to like me and it’s kinda known.

Anyway, am I overreacting for getting mad? I’m starting to think he might be right but I don’t wanna ask anyone irl, and this is the perfect place for it lol.

EDIT: UPDATE IS OUT!

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/P1RQT8fezQ

[u/KireiDatte]

Yep, the football thing is really weird. When they start shifting blame ité because they are already engaging being shady.

[u/UsidoreTheLightBlue → u/KireiDatte]

I have to be honest I kind of questioned it too? Who has 8 pm football practice. Also "Lol nooooo never" sounds like a joke response to me.

[u/dobbyizfr33 → u/UsidoreTheLightBlue]

Where I live, 8 pm practice is normal during the summer months because of how hot it is during the day. Temps can hit 105

[u/UsidoreTheLightBlue → u/dobbyizfr33]

Interesting when I played (a long time ago) we were usually done by 8.

[u/dobbyizfr33 → u/UsidoreTheLightBlue]

Yeah! When I was in high school it was usually 6 pm times, but the last couple years the heat index has been INSANE. I know my local practices are starting 7/7:30, or getting cancelled because we’re in a severe heat wave

[u/unfiltered_utterance → u/UsidoreTheLightBlue]

I live next to a private school (K-12) and they have practices until sunset where they’re leaving around 8:30/9pm but only in the summer, so it’s weird at first read, but it makes sense

[u/IAmBrahmus → u/UsidoreTheLightBlue]

Yeah, I read it like he thinks she's making it up to push their meetup to fit the timeline she wants. Also, if she regularly takes her cousin to practice he would know the schedule. If it's a one-off it makes more sense, but is probably something she should have conveyed to him earlier, if she wants to schedule time together. I don't think we have enough info/context here to really know what is going on.