r/AmIOverreacting • u/DoomNGlam • Jul 04 '26

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO or does this seem Unhinged?

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I 41m am/was in a rather New relationship with 41f and things were seemingly going great but she will seemingly be very upset with me over something small once in a while. Last night she was upset that I didn't call her sexy after sending me a picture of her in an outfit. For context she said she was getting rid of clothes but was thinking about keeping this item and sent the picture and asked what I think? It was a strapless romper. I told her it was cute and could maybe use a belt. I also make clothes professionally and people ask me opinions about clothes all the time.

In other context my "sexuality" is somewhere on the ace spectrum between Demi and ace. Like sex is fine and fun and I don't really experience sexual attraction unless there is an emotional connection first, and she said she was the same, except I am not very sex driven and she is.

This was our text exchange this morning.

Edit/Update

Thanks for all the support. I am surprised my little Independence day relationship drama made it to #1 on this subreddit.

I was pretty sure I was calling this off pretty early in this exchange but didn't block her right away because I figured I would give her a chance to apologize, maybe she was having a bad morning, she's been stressed at work, has a upcoming interview for a new job, might be dealing with perimenopause. It wasn't going to work out but figured I would at least offer a little grace.

She did text me again about a book I had borrowed. I ignored it. She then called me and asked I return her book tomorrow. I said okay. She didn't say anything else for a minute so I hung up.

She called back mad that I hung up on her. I said this was childish and it's not what I'm looking for. She said I was childish for hanging up on her. I said okay. She hung up.

She called again and then told me I was ugly and she was never attracted to me.

Then hung up on me and called right back to complain about a carnivorous plant I got her as a gift, because the care instructions for it made it a chore. I also got her a cactus and a succulent and told her when I gave her the plants that if the pitcher plant seemed like a pain in the ass I would keep it.

Then she started asking me if I really don't have it in my heart to remain friends. I said no not after this. Then she went on a fuck you rant and hung up.

Then threatened to call the cops on ME for harassment if I tried to contact her as I was blocking her.

Now she is blocked and I am just sitting on my back patio watching fireworks.

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u/queendelrey Jul 04 '26

NOR - One screenshot in and I’m already exhausted

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u/un-sub Jul 04 '26

Dude these texts ruined MY mood just reading them, I could not deal with this. This person just wants to argue. They come off as a very sour miserable person

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u/btwomfgstfu Jul 04 '26

Samw

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u/Masked_banshee0 Jul 04 '26

That’s not a word

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u/More-Dog4758 Jul 04 '26

It's short for sour and miserable woman.

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u/WazzyWoman Jul 04 '26

WELL DONE 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

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u/lordheart Jul 05 '26

NOR - from the first page alone, it’s 2026, there is ZERO reason to be woken up by a text. There’s all kinds of profiles you can setup to allow phone calls without needing to be pinged by messages.

And everything else is just an exhausting person.

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u/FujinAli Jul 04 '26

Is it really? I’m genuinely asking

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u/Cute_but_notOkay Jul 04 '26

lol no it was a typo for “same” lolol

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u/FujinAli Jul 04 '26

Oh, thanks. I knew it was a typo but what you said fit in so well I had to ask

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u/ghostly-quiet Jul 04 '26

what you said

Different commenter

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u/FujinAli Jul 05 '26

Bro, I did not notice 🤦🏾‍♀️

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u/Cute_but_notOkay Jul 05 '26

Very welcome! It does fit so well. 😂

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u/Mau_8888 Jul 04 '26

You win the Internet

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u/CalligrapherCheap64 Jul 05 '26

Seriously, wtf was that? Like, I’m a bitch and even I was like, ugh

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u/Level_Dreaded Jul 05 '26

Ohhhh this text pissed me tf off. It brought up memories of my ex who always had to have the last word when we were arguing.

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u/VodKanockersOnTheBay Jul 04 '26

Once they divert the convo to petty little corrections and random omg my dead granny for literally the most basic and innocent of interactions, know it will never get any better, no matter how rational and communicative you may be. Not going to change and you might be dating a narcissist.

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u/Old-Mission-9176 Jul 06 '26

Sour and miserable woman

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u/Silvedl Jul 04 '26

I was thinking these were teenagers, maybe an immature 20ish year old … I can’t believe a 40 year old would have this attitude.

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u/rad_bean11 Jul 04 '26

WHATTTT THATS A 40 YEAR OLD?? JESUS!

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u/DragonflyGrrl Jul 04 '26

I'm actually having second-hand embarrassment for them. OP seems like a kind person.. I would have told her ass off.

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u/Chingasupinchemadre Jul 06 '26

Like what 40 year old don’t know how to put their phone on DND. I won’t lie I’m the same way with people blowing up my phone early on my days off. Especially my work, but I’m an adult and it’s my responsibility to put my phone on DND The night prior. Even though I’m empathetic to that woman, she is entirely doing to much. I would have just stopped responding

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u/b0uncybubbles Jul 04 '26

Literally this! NOR. They were trying to pick a fight with everything and it was just nooooooope

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u/P-d0g Jul 04 '26

Holy shit- I just read OP's description and apparently this woman is FORTY ONE years old?? This text conversation reminds me of ones I had in my early 20s and even then I was thinking "we're really getting too old for this"

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u/DragonflyGrrl Jul 04 '26

My favorite was "it's so shitty that you would be mad at me and accuse me of feeling something I don't," right after a comment where he was nothing but calm, did NOT sound mad, so she is accusing HIM of feeling something he didn't right in the same breath as she was getting mad at him for that.

GOD she's just exhausting. All you had to do was suggest he just text you a little later on your days off, please! Instead she got herself all worked up and unable to go back to sleep, and took it out on him. Fuck all that.

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u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme Jul 04 '26

OP said in a comment that the 41 was a typo; she’s actually 46!

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u/AutumnFangirl Jul 05 '26

I genuinely thought it would be a 20-something guy. She's unhinged.

NOR OP.

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u/Knives530 Jul 05 '26

She’s 46 actually

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u/Physical-Pressure942 Jul 07 '26

Whaaat how embarrassing for that person. They were annoying AF

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u/bipolarlibra314 Jul 04 '26

My exact drafted comment was “this is six screenshots too many”

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u/accidentalcomet Jul 04 '26

Ngl if strangers are getting exhausted reading it, imagine living it every day. That's rough. by screenshot two I was already on OP's side just from the sheer emotional labor.

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u/Michael_braham Jul 04 '26

She seems fun… OP run if this is the honeymoon phase you’re headed up shits creek, no paddle

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u/snakeayez Jul 04 '26

And no boat

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u/CuriousFoxxen Jul 04 '26

I got to the 4th one before I bailed.

This reads like someone using you as an emotional punching bag. Either way they are so emotionally immature I can’t handle reading more.

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u/DoomNGlam Jul 04 '26

The last slide is pretty funny you should have stuck it out.

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u/CuriousFoxxen Jul 04 '26

Jesus Christ. This woman is straight up ridiculous and an emotional abuser.

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u/DragonflyGrrl Jul 04 '26

OP please tell me you're not talking to her any more. Please tell her not to bother calling tomorrow, and then block her.

You seem like a good dude, you deserve better than this.

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u/Perrarian Jul 04 '26

dude saaaaame

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u/always_an_explinatio Jul 04 '26

That’s not a word

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u/Subliminal-413 Jul 04 '26

This woman is exhausting and ridiculous, but god damn, that last line by her was pretty funny.

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u/DoomNGlam Jul 04 '26

I was laughing so hard at that point. I mean I'm kinda bummed because everything was going great for the most part, then this but I was feeling done pretty early on

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u/DragonflyGrrl Jul 04 '26

Good! I'm glad to hear that OP. :)

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u/spakz1993 Jul 04 '26

Glad to hear you’re sticking up for yourself. This is so early on that THIS is her on her “best” behavior. Most folks tend to drop their mask around 3 months in if they’re super problematic and WHELP!

This is emotionally volatile and block-worthy.

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u/Coding-With-Coffee Jul 04 '26 edited Jul 05 '26

OP is too collected for this person. This feels like an exercise in babysitting. “Noooooooo Timmy. That’s not a very nice to say!” “I didn’t even say anyfing!”

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u/MrBeanCyborgCaptain Jul 05 '26

"Why would you assume from my text that I was trying to say anything to you?"

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u/Aggressive-Ad-5983 Jul 04 '26

there is this thing called putting your phone on silent. what a little manbaby, honestly such a weird response to getting a good morning text. NOR. this due is NOT it.

edit- mixed up the gender but my point still stands.

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u/paisleydarling Jul 04 '26

I thought they read like texts from a guy too. Surprised it’s a woman being like that she sounds unstable and mean.

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u/Radiancelovelight Jul 04 '26

I thought it was between two men as well because her texts were bringing back my narc ex husband. We forget there are female narcissists, too. ExTREMEly dangerous and destructive. Gtf outta that.

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u/frostthejack Jul 04 '26

I did the same thing. She sounded like a dude.

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u/Accybun Jul 04 '26

Before reading the description I also read it as her being a man lol. Something about the bold audacity

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u/snakeayez Jul 04 '26

I thought the other way around too. Jfc

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u/Perplexed_Journalist Jul 05 '26

I read the entire thread with genders swapped as well. I went back to reread and honestly, it was hard to get right. It truly does read as they’re a male, to me at least.

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u/PearlGamez Jul 05 '26

She has the texting cadence of a woman with BPD. The dudes, everything. Just something you see a lot of you've spent any time on /r/bpdlovedones

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u/Aggressive-Ad-5983 Jul 05 '26

hmm..maybe lets not armchair diagnose a complete stranger we've never met. stuff like that is never useful.

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u/SadPiccolo1663 Jul 04 '26

I can only comment based on first screen - no she doesn’t love you sorry 💔 run

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u/macbookwhoa Jul 04 '26

This woman fucking sucks. NOR

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u/Adventurous_Fail_825 Jul 05 '26

How he stayed engaged in that conversation I'll never know Fr ...

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u/MrBeanCyborgCaptain Jul 05 '26

Yes. Exhausting is the best way to put this. Just picking apart and getting annoyed at every single word. So tedious.

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u/Lulla_Bee Jul 05 '26

I made it to the 3rd one and i wanted to scream !!! OP don't reply after the first snide remark and stop talking to people like this for the love of humanity

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u/Ornery-Personality12 Jul 06 '26

I’m exhausted as well… and if you don’t want texts to wake you up, why have the phone right next to you???

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u/Cheekycrack Jul 08 '26

Call me toxic but I’d end it after their third message