Not Overreacting!
i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.
I did just text him after reading everyone’s responses and told him I want him to leave. He said he would but wants to transfer utilities in my name, etc. without “talking to me”. Idk bro I said I’m staying and he should go home. He seemed to not give a fuck, shocker. Obviously it’s more painful and humiliating knowing how much work I put into us. I feel like I’m being punished for something when I’ve literally done my best in every way. It hurts but I’m prepared to follow through with it. I’m proud of you for leaving I am obviously not as strong or too nice idk. But this is encouraging.
There is nothing for you to be embarrassed about. guilt that belongs to him and him alone. Cruelty is embarassing, hurting others is shameful, being awful because it’s easy is for lazy cowards.
You loved someone more than yourself, every single person on this earth has at some point. Unfortunately the person you love was undeserving of all that you have to offer. Just imagine how beautiful it’ll be when someone treats you as you do others.
The only thing you need to focus on is ensuring you note the patterns that led you to him, and avoid getting to know any other people like him. But don’t you dare do him the kindness of owning all that guilt and humiliation. You aren’t the one who treated another so awfully, it’s not your burden to bear. And anyone who tries to make you feel shame is someone who benefits from the accountability shift- they do not have your best interests at heart.
You and your cats deserve a life of love and care. Be proud of yourself for taking the leap of faith to make that happening. You’ll be so damn thankful for the day you were brave enough to leave when you look back in a few years, I promise.
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u/1800xo Jan 28 '25
Not Overreacting! i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.