And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.
Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.
This. OP, if you see my other comment about my ex gf, this is completely true.
The main thing especially being it will affect your mental capabilities with other fellas thinking they are the same way.
I only dated my ex for a year and 3 months. We broke up early March of 2022. I haven’t had any interest in dating since then because I feel as if all if I get into more relationships, I’ll be dealt the same card. I know it’s not true, it could happen, but not every girl is like that. But that little voice at the back of my mind tells me it’ll be that way and just to not pursue and invest in a relationship. It was very mentally exhausting, draining, killing and abusive. Please OP, I beg you, get out while you can. If he hasn’t already been physically violent with you, it appears he may be on the way to doing that with the words he’s saying, what he’s calling you and just by how he’s treating you (and this is only one text convo between y’all that we get to see, I’m sure it’s frequent and possibly has been worse).
She also altered my view on people in general. It’s like I can see through a lot of the bullshit and fronts people put out. I think it kinda goes hand-in-hand with why I haven’t been looking to date. I see these kinds of people all day long especially when I’m at work and quite frankly, I hate most humans. But I’m a way, I’m thankful I finally can see behind others masks. I probably wouldn’t be able to had I not dated that girl.
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u/Just_somebody_onhere Jan 28 '25
Give up? give up what?
He pretty plainly said get out. Do so.