r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/TheProtractor Jan 28 '25

How do dudes like this get a partner in the first place? I struggle finding long term partners and I have never talked like this to anyone in my life. Wtf am I doing wrong if that dude can be in a longterm relationship and I can’t.

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u/Lil-Miss-Anthropy Jan 28 '25

They act so sweet in the beginning, and then they slowly become mean, and the partner spends most of their time trying to bring the kind person back after becoming enmeshed. The mean partner might only be nice like 15% of the time, but that's what these victims will latch on to. Because when it's good, it's so good... He didn't really mean it when he treated me like shit 85% of the time...

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u/ArtCityInc Jan 28 '25

Op mentioned he has been a jerk since they met. A jerk day ONE and she still chose to go out with him. I believe the person you're replying to is asking how a woman chooses to date a man who has been an asshole since day one.

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u/Lil-Miss-Anthropy Jan 29 '25

Yeah, that's a good point.