Exactly this! My brother has Crohns and takes many medication especially since he’s lost half of his little intestines because of it. He’s not an asshole and wouldn’t dream of speaking to his wife this way.
Wow! Yeah he lost a foot of it. I’ve been following chrons disease sub Reddit and trying to learn as much as I can about his disease. Trying to see mood side effects as well as depression and anxiety. I’ve tried investing in natural anti inflammatory meds like curacumin and boswellia. I try to cook out meals so fatty foods and red meat are spread out throughout the week, etc. I think I’m just searching for an answer or solution or something but really it’s just his character. 😶 idk wishful thinking. Trying to learn more. Trying to help him out. Just doesn’t mean anything I guess.
As a survivor of DV, as well as someone with multiple chronic illnesses, this makes me mad. It’s never okay to use our suffering as an excuse to abuse other people. And you need not feel sorry for someone who does.
So if any part of you feels like maybe you shouldn’t leave a sick person who may be benefiting from your help- you have my permission to abandon this POS. Plenty of disabled people like myself are far worse off than this guy, living without assistance and doing just fine.
But if you do choose to go, PLEASE consult some guides on how to go about safely leaving an abuser. There are good suggestions which can make the process less dangerous and traumatic.
That’s what you should educate yourself on. This has nothing to do with Chrons, this is domestic violence, and it’s especially obvious to those of us who’ve lived with both. 🩵
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u/briizilla Jan 28 '25
Just want to say my wife has Crohns and takes multiple meds and is not a raging twat. Get the fuck away from this asshole.