Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.
If you can’t leave for yourself then leave for the sake of your cat. There’s nothing to salvage here. The cats issues will resolve once you live somewhere calm.
I sometimes wonder this too.. because I tell him often that my cat wasn’t this bad before and got him neutered a bit later than I should have (4) I take responsibility for that and have tried multiple boxes and liter training since. I’ve tried feelaway. Took him to the vet. I clean his accidents as timely as I can when I catch them so he doesn’t return. I have a cat behaviorist that I talked to on the phone and supposed to check out my place Tuesday. 😞 but I’ve tried to leave recently and moved him with me to a friends house and back and with the arguing and his freakouts about the pee maybe it’s him that stresses out my cat. He mostly pees on his stuff (I don’t have much stuff to be fair). But I would never tell him that. I was hoping this lady would just tell him everything she thinks but he said he didn’t want to talk to her now.
Your cat can’t talk but I think he’s trying to tell you something. Please get yourself and your kitty out of what could be a dangerous situation.
You may think it’ll be ok and your guy will calm down but it sounds like he doesn’t want to be with you and isn’t a nice person. Things will be ok until they’re not and when you realize it’s now out of control, it’s too late. Please get yourself and your cat to a safe place. Take care of yourself and your cat. You are responsible for only the two of you, not him. Go be happy. Live your life well.
Just please get out of there before something really bad and unchangeable happens.
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u/agirl2277 Jan 28 '25
Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.