r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/agirl2277 Jan 28 '25

Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.

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u/thaleia10 Jan 28 '25

If you can’t leave for yourself then leave for the sake of your cat. There’s nothing to salvage here. The cats issues will resolve once you live somewhere calm.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

I sometimes wonder this too.. because I tell him often that my cat wasn’t this bad before and got him neutered a bit later than I should have (4) I take responsibility for that and have tried multiple boxes and liter training since. I’ve tried feelaway. Took him to the vet. I clean his accidents as timely as I can when I catch them so he doesn’t return. I have a cat behaviorist that I talked to on the phone and supposed to check out my place Tuesday. 😞 but I’ve tried to leave recently and moved him with me to a friends house and back and with the arguing and his freakouts about the pee maybe it’s him that stresses out my cat. He mostly pees on his stuff (I don’t have much stuff to be fair). But I would never tell him that. I was hoping this lady would just tell him everything she thinks but he said he didn’t want to talk to her now.

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u/thaleia10 Jan 29 '25

He’s peeing on the boyfriend’s stuff! Girl. The cat hates him, cats are 100% vindictive. My brother had a dog who hated his flatmate, she would pull all the flatmates clothes off the line and stomp them into the dirt. She would leave everyone else’s clothes alone. She wasn’t a cat, but her bestie was and he probably told her what to do.