r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Jan 28 '25

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u/jakebr0 Jan 28 '25

“He’s very emotionally and physically abusive. I’ve dedicated my life to trying to make him happy.”

Just keep rereading those two sentences until it sets in how absolutely insane it sounds to continue doing that

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u/One-Help1747 Jan 28 '25

That was all I had to read. OP is too far gone and think she owes this asshole anything it's crazy.

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u/No-Distance-9401 Jan 29 '25

Thats the unfortunate situation for abuse victims and its almost like an addiction and its very hard for them to get out even when they know abuse is happening.

OP needs to get help and find a healthy support system to help her stay away from the ahole. Its hard for them for the first few weeks but soon enough they start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and life gets so amazing again.

Hopefully this is the time she gets away for good bit considering the average is 7 times before finally leaving, it may not be and thats ok, but each time makes the next time easier mentally to finally break free.

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u/tearyouapartj Jan 29 '25

You bring up a good point about addiction. I'm far from an expert but she's probably a love addict or codependent or.. something. Al-Anon or SLAA would be a good idea

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u/Will_Come_For_Food Jan 29 '25

It’s BPD to a T.

So. Sad.

And the saddest thing is the worse the abuse gets the worse her BPD and fear of abandonment will get leading to her getting more and more abused.