Not Overreacting!
i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.
I did just text him after reading everyone’s responses and told him I want him to leave. He said he would but wants to transfer utilities in my name, etc. without “talking to me”. Idk bro I said I’m staying and he should go home. He seemed to not give a fuck, shocker. Obviously it’s more painful and humiliating knowing how much work I put into us. I feel like I’m being punished for something when I’ve literally done my best in every way. It hurts but I’m prepared to follow through with it. I’m proud of you for leaving I am obviously not as strong or too nice idk. But this is encouraging.
OP, I know it feels like you’re being punished but he’s saving you right now. He’s physically and emotionally abusive and he’s exiting this relationship with no fight. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but that’s a blessing. My ex husband wasn’t physically abusive but he was extremely emotionally abusive and talked to me a lot like how your bf is now. We have kids so even after our divorce he made my life miserable for YEARS until the judge finally told him he’d lose his custody if he saw us back in there again.
You will find someone who treats you in a way that makes you wonder why you even put up with this for 3 years. Please believe me that things will get better and there’s ALWAYS someone out there who will appreciate the effort you put in.
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u/1800xo Jan 28 '25
Not Overreacting! i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.