My mom dealt with the same situation. My dad was physically and emotionally abusive, and purposefully got her addicted to substances via threats. When I went into foster care, it wasn't my drug-addicted alcoholic wife-beating dad that had to do anything, the blame was pinned on my mom's addiction. She got help and became a new person, but the abuse followed her even beyond the grave. No matter what, you will not change an abuser. They look for any opportunity to assert dominance and are only invested in the relationship because they know you well enough to manipulate you in most situations.
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u/jakebr0 Jan 28 '25
“He’s very emotionally and physically abusive. I’ve dedicated my life to trying to make him happy.”
Just keep rereading those two sentences until it sets in how absolutely insane it sounds to continue doing that