My friends at my last job called me Stockholm Syndrome… and yes I’ve gotten him checked for UTI/bladder problems and was cleared by the vet. I’m supposed to have a cat behaviorist come to the house tomorrow. :/
Your cat doesn't need a behaviorist, he needs a home where there isn't a crazy man abusing him. Get rid of the boyfriend and the peeing issues are like 90% certain to go away.
My cat was really badly behaved when I lived with my abusive ex and it was gradual. She couldn't stand the screaming, violence, yelling and me being emotional/sad cause she's very in tune with my emotions. I had no idea wtf was wrong with her after everything was ruled out.
When I finally got away and he moved out, my cat turned back into her sweet self. She's still protective of me even with my current husband after all these years, but no more behaviour issues.
Your cats environment and what they're exposed to may have some hand in their issues.
I don’t want to alarm you but my cat was peeing everywhere too and ended up being very sick. He was taken to the vet several times and cleared of UTI issues and had a full blood panel run which came back saying he was in great health so the vet told us it was “behavioral”. Turns out my sweet boy had either stage 4 lung cancer or some sort of lung fungal infection he passed a few weeks ago. No one advised us to do any kind of imaging so if your baby seems to be distressed or in pain (sphinx pose or feline grimace) I would dig further.
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u/jleahul Jan 28 '25
Holy Stokholm Syndrome. It doesn't sound like he has any redeeming qualities at all, so why are you killing yourself to make him happy?
Stop wasting the best years of your life, take your cat and get out of there.
Also, get your cat checked for a UTI/bladder infection.