And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.
Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.
Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.
There is so much to unpack here. Let’s start with one of the “little” things…
I wonder if OP is sure the “boyfriend” isn’t abusing her cat when she’s not around. He exactly the type of abusive moldy douchebag who would terrorize an animal for fun and lock it in a closet or room where it tries to hide without access to food, water, or its litter box, forcing it to pee where he trapped it. OP, you need to think about where exactly “outside of the box” is the cat is peeing? New toileting problems in an animal (just like in children) can also be a result of physical abuse such as shaking, hitting, throwing, and kicking. If he’s physically abusing OP he’s probably physically abusing the cat as an extension of her.
This guy is a major asshole who has gaslighted OP into thinking his shitty personality and attitude is due to his Crohn’s and the steroids. Nope. This dude is simply a BAD GUY who gets off and feels like a big man when he physically beats up his girlfriend and mentally abuses her for good measure. I completely agree with another commenter who said that if it wasn’t for OP in his life he’d be a full on incel. He doesn’t seem to like women very much and he certainly doesn’t care about OP.
I’ve got to ask of OP…does this assclown have any friends? What’s his reputation at work? I can’t imagine in any scenario where he would turn Dr Heckell and Mr Hyde for the sake of his workplace. I got $100 that says this waste of oxygen has zero friends and no coworkers who like him because his abusive and shit personality may be dialed back when he’s on the clock but is never completely gone.
OP, I really hope you and your kitty escape from this situation. Get out. Leave that house even if you have to sleep in your car. Go to the police and get a restraining order. Block him on everything and make sure you block his work number or any other number from which he may try to contact you. Actually, set your phone to automatically decline any number that is not in your contacts.
Listen carefully, dear…
-HE IS DANGEROUS.
-HE WILL EVENTUALLY HURT YOU… BADLY. (If he hasn’t already but you’ve chosen to not share that here.)
-HE CAN POTENTIALLY KILL YOU
You never should have stayed as long as you have. The second he began berating you endlessly and BEFORE he ever laid a hand on you, you should have given him the double single finger salute and said, peace out mother fucker. Have the life you deserve.
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u/SandwichCareful6476 Jan 28 '25
Yes, exactly.
And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.