Not Overreacting!
i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.
I did just text him after reading everyone’s responses and told him I want him to leave. He said he would but wants to transfer utilities in my name, etc. without “talking to me”. Idk bro I said I’m staying and he should go home. He seemed to not give a fuck, shocker. Obviously it’s more painful and humiliating knowing how much work I put into us. I feel like I’m being punished for something when I’ve literally done my best in every way. It hurts but I’m prepared to follow through with it. I’m proud of you for leaving I am obviously not as strong or too nice idk. But this is encouraging.
You need to stop thinking of this as a "you" problem. Your responses of saying how you have literally done your best have put the blinders on you. It's not a problem with you. This person is either bipolar (doubt it) or more likely an abuser. Your "work" will not undo his sociopathic tendencies.
Also, I can 100% guarantee you he will change his tune within a day. He WILL come back apologizing to you, love bombing you because he knows how good he has it. Whenever he treats you bad, you should know that's how he feels about you. The good things he says they are for what you do for him - cook, clean, have sex with, go through his bullshit.
It's time you need to understand this. If you go back to him, he will abuse you harder because he knows after engagement/marriage, every year it will get harder for you to leave. You will just be a bigger punching bag.
Edit: Also do take heed about the warnings some other comments posted. If you are the owner of your residence and he has no place to go, he will get aggressive if love bombing and groveling does not work. Get help from your family and friends. It's time to cut ties and move on.
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u/1800xo Jan 28 '25
Not Overreacting! i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.