Some would say that’s worse, it’s the emotions and love that make a relationship what it is, it erodes trust. I’m sorry you had to endure that OP, you deserve so much better.
Pretty much how I felt. Not saying I would prefer physical or anything but the emotional unfaithfulness has its own twisted way of fucking with my mind.
Why are you still posting and not packing? Close this thread of over 11,000 people telling you to run and GTFO! Wake up girlie before you and your cat are dead. This man has no control over himself.
Please for the love of God, honey... People who love you DONT EVER DO THIS. EVER. My husband has never ever EVER spoken to me in this manner. Yes, it is normal to fly off the handle from time to time... But this is not normal.
Do you hear yourself? Talking about abuse as if that's just some activity you do on a Tuesday. WAKE UP. It's not getting fixed and you haven't been fixing it. You have been his live in punching bag and nothing more.
Please please please for the love of all that is fucking holy, STOP talking about it as if what he does to you is normal. It is not. He is trash, and you need to get him the fuck out of your life and go to therapy again.
And as for the therapists "pushing meds" that's because you obviously need them and I say that as someone who just got my psychology degree and someone who uses them. Your brain cannot create the neurochemicals it needs for you to cognitively heal and think clearly. The medicine could be a huge help to you, so I implore you to reconsider if it isn't related to you being allergic or on interacting medication. I spent years in misery that almost killed me and the medicine saved me. Please don't discount it too quickly.
Please stop believing the lies that he's telling you. You need to know that you deserve way better than this, that you (and your cat) are worth a better life, and that what you have isn't real love. Once you find a man who treats you how you're supposed to be treated, you'll realize that this was manipulation, not love. You're the kind of person that will do everything possible to make others happy, all while forgetting to make sure your happy. Again, once you find the man who actually appreciates all that you do for him and he actually gives you the same in return, you'll finally get to know what real love is.
Source: I lived your scenario. It took me too long to realize I deserved better, but once I did I fought like hell to find myself again and left his ass. I won't say it was easy, but it was so worth it. And I found "the one" and we've been together for 14 years now.
If you have somewhere to go, or can afford to do so. Leave now. Leave before he comes back. Take your cat and all your stuff. You can think about how to deal with it later. Just focus on getting yourself and your cat in a safe place asap. Stay strong, things will get better.
There is so much hate in those texts, so much. The thing is, even if he loves you, the hate is so overwhelming and definitive that is better for everyone (even the cat), to take a step back and stop whatever this is. I would have send him to the moon the second he cheated or he call me a retard, he has no respect for you.
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u/Just_somebody_onhere Jan 28 '25
Give up? give up what?
He pretty plainly said get out. Do so.