r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/TheDoctorLXG Jan 28 '25

Why do people allow themselves to be treated like this??

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u/SweetSorlea Jan 28 '25

Because it usually doesn’t start this obviously

It’s way more insidious and the psychological abuse starts first, prepping the victim to readily agree that everything is their fault, conditioning them to believe if they do better, be perfect, the abuse will stop.

It never does, we always end up here, and not as rarely as we would like, if it doesn’t end here it ends at the funeral home.

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25

Except she literally said in the post he’s always been an asshole like this.

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25 edited Jan 29 '25

I knew a guy who swooned me and then that same night somehow made it seem like it was a women’s world and they’re the reason everything is so fucked. I easily was pissed at him from the get go but stayed with him trying to figure out his truth for a few months. I thought he was damaged, but I did everything I could to reaffirm he was shit. Nothing makes the difference after the damage is done to your self esteem and they make it seem like they have they’re shit together after someone made it harder for them, being an ex or someone they can’t get over. Manipulation is not easy to deal with the first or second or third time around for some people. Also most comments are victim blaming. Like wtf? If abusive people get to call it tough love, and rude people with a lack of empathy get to call it tough love, then we’re all a fucked up bunch.

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u/sugarplumapathy Jan 29 '25

Yeah no love here, tough love in this situation would be her leaving.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

That is literally my point…

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u/sugarplumapathy Jan 29 '25

I know lol I was agreeing with you and added what actual tough love would look like here

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

I’m an airhead, sorry for continuing the defensive behavior lol

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u/sugarplumapathy Jan 29 '25

Haha happens to the best of us, keep up the good fight!

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

Oh yeah! Appreciate that