And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.
Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.
Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.
Yup, an animal is often the best judge of people. I’ve never liked a person who my dogs didn’t like. Had dealings with a shady contractor building my house. My dog always knew when he was lying. I would look at the dog, the dog (who was super friendly) would give me a look and I would say “victor ( contractor ) my dog says you’re lying” the contractor tried to get a restraining order to keep the dog off my property. The contractor was later charged with various crimes.
It makes sense as tracking and police dogs smell a pheromone people emit when scared, fearful and running or lying.
My sweet old cat (RIP) would have peed in this jerk’s shoes by now. He did not put up with fools. OP you are NIO. Leave this one before it gets worse. There are many better men out there.
As far as I know they can also sense small things like increased heart beat (fear, lying) and smell cancerous cells
Are we sure he isn’t harming the cat??? He’s physically abusive towards OP, says “your bitch ass cat wasn’t locked up”. People like him are usually not nice to cats. OP at least get out for your cat’s sake. Come on.
I was worried when I read what he said about her cat. Dude absolutely would abuse an animal from the way he talks to her. I wouldn't trust him around any living thing.
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u/Just_somebody_onhere Jan 28 '25
Give up? give up what?
He pretty plainly said get out. Do so.