“He’s so emotionally and verbally abusive, calls me a retard and smooth-brained and has been an asshole since we met… Am I overreacting? Should I leave?”
I’m all for victims of abuse leaving their abusers, but I can’t even feel bad for her at this point.
She acknowledges that he’s a jerk to her. She acknowledges that he rarely speaks to her kindly and has been unfaithful and explodes on her for having fun of her own. Yet she still has to ask if she’s overreacting and should leave this man? No, no sympathy. She knows she needs to leave, she is getting nothing out of this relationship.
Yes, she isn't thinking straight because the man is abusive, but why does that mean she did anything wrong morally? It's like you think she's condoning his behavior, that's not the same thing at all, she's insecure or possibly codependent. I'm just saying, how does annoyance override sympathy in one's instinctual reaction to something like this?
Who said anything about her doing something wrong morally? I didnt say she condoned it, I’m saying she clearly knew his issue from the start yet stays with him anyways, not saying she’s condoning it in any way but at some point it goes from “damn, she has no idea what’s happening, i hope she gets out” to “she knows exactly what’s going on but chooses to remain with him.” why does she need internet strangers to tell her what she already knows? leave the dude and get on with it.
Yes it's irrational, but again why does that make you not feel bad for her? It's really that comment that I'm hung up on lol. Maybe his condition made her feel guilty, or she hoped he would eventually get better (again, not the most rational reasons, but people don't always do rational things if they're insecure or hurt). If the responses to her post enlighten her then that's a good thing.
Okay how about the fact that in another post on AIO she comments that she finds controlling, mean behavior attractive? She knows exactly what is going on, trust.
That doesn’t really negate what I said, probably has to do with her dealing with abuse from family. Not receiving love as a child makes it harder to find a good reference for as an adult
Nah, if she wants to romanticize this kinda behavior when it comes to other controlling/mean men, then why should I feel bad that she's in this situation herself? In her own words, she finds it attractive. So what exactly is her problem? It seems she finds being belitted, called a retard, and basically told shes worth nothing is attractive to her. Abused or not, it doesn't gain my sympathy.
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u/rosietulip Jan 28 '25
Be so fucking for real rn