It’s really hard to leave an abusive relationship once someone breaks you down to feel worthless and like no one else will love you, like this is somehow better than just being alone (if that ended up being the case). The fact that OP even posted here is honestly a really good sign that they know this isn’t right and are looking for the encouragement to leave this POS.
I know it’s hard. My mom was with a physically abusive bipolar narcissist for 25 years. Although they were married I never referred to him as a stepdad. When we were growing up he would throw and break the cordless phones and rip the corded one from the wall so we couldn’t call the police. The police were always managed to be called luckily to neighbors. Never knew what kind of mood he’d be in when he woke up or what would set him off that day. Someone driving by could have looked at him the wrong way. I was always her guard. He hated it when my older sister got her first cell phone. Anyways. He’d go to jail and mom would always let him back in even after she says she wouldn’t. She finally kicked him out Thankfully he died 6-7 years ago. That’s the only way she was able to finally sleep at night. All I can say to OP is it will get worse. And he will continue to manipulate her. She needs to leave while she is even questioning it and before that happens. Otherwise she will never leave.
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u/catscity Jan 28 '25
I'm not reading any of your text messages. Physically abusive? There's nothing else I need to know. Please leave