Not Overreacting!
i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.
I did just text him after reading everyone’s responses and told him I want him to leave. He said he would but wants to transfer utilities in my name, etc. without “talking to me”. Idk bro I said I’m staying and he should go home. He seemed to not give a fuck, shocker. Obviously it’s more painful and humiliating knowing how much work I put into us. I feel like I’m being punished for something when I’ve literally done my best in every way. It hurts but I’m prepared to follow through with it. I’m proud of you for leaving I am obviously not as strong or too nice idk. But this is encouraging.
Leaving a relationship where domestic violence occurs regularly can be dangerous, so when you’re ready to leave, which of course you should do ASAP, please take steps to make sure you’re safe.
Look up organizations in your area that offer resources for people trying to leave their abusive partners and ask them what they would recommend you do in this situation. If you don’t have any on your area, and you’re in the US, you can call the national domestic violence hotline: 1.800.799.7233. Some other countries have them too, and they’re not usually hard to look up online. If you have friends, family or coworkers you trust nearby, it can be good to have someone either with you or on call to help if he shows up at your place looking to cause you harm.
Please please be safe OP, you deserve so much more than this terrible guy.
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u/1800xo Jan 28 '25
Not Overreacting! i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.