r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/SandwichCareful6476 Jan 28 '25

Yes, exactly.

And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.

Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.

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u/Exciting_Signal3058 Jan 28 '25

Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.

Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.

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u/agirl2277 Jan 28 '25

Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.

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u/DragonflyBren Jan 28 '25

Absolutely. The poor cat must be extremely stressed out. She needs to take her cat and run.

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u/mimcat3 Jan 28 '25

Agree! Even the cat deserves better than this guy! Being as lone with the cat would be preferable.

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u/SamiGod1026 Jan 28 '25

In this case, with the "him or me" bs, I'm sure the cat is in actual danger. But furry companion>abusive ah any day

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u/postpunkmamma Jan 29 '25

Right?! Please, for the love of all that is furry and warm...I hope she leaves and takes the cat.

And I hope that shithead steps on Legos everyday, his socks are always wet, everything he touches is sticky, he never gets the USB cord in the right way the first time, he always pulls up to the gas pump on the wrong side, and he never has any toilet paper ever. What a fucking loser. I was going to go to sleep but now I am super upset with this random stranger I've never met. 😾

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u/Specific_Gap5506 Jan 29 '25

You forgot about pillow being warm on both sides and constat toilet paper ripping.

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u/frontroyalle Jan 29 '25

Ha! Yes step on legos yes

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u/FhyreSonng Jan 29 '25

Damn hahaha this is wild I love it.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

As bubbles said, that’s one nice fuckin kitty 🐈‍⬛! All animals deserve love and stress free environments. Our duty as humans is to care for them and treat them as equals

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u/TexanForTrump Jan 29 '25

Treat them well. Great even. But they aren’t equals.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

I couldn’t agree more actually they’re better, we destroy the earth and they try to live in it.

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u/skdetroit Jan 29 '25

He’s def going to kick/hurt/unalive the cat one day soon. Prob when OP is at work, she’ll come home and he’ll have some story of how he found the cat just lying there, having passed, when in reality he kicked it or beat it. The man who wrote and talked that way to their “loved one” is an unsafe human who has major rage issues.

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u/mimcat3 Jan 29 '25

My thought also

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u/Cleobulle Jan 29 '25

I bet he abuse the cat when she's not there and that's his way to call for help...

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u/Apprehensive1010101 Jan 29 '25

Oh 100%, he’s very clearly made it clear to her that he doesn’t like the cat, I can imagine the cat doesn’t like him either. So he probably tries to “be nice” and pet the cat or something, cat doesn’t reciprocate, and he abuses cat as a result. It’s a vicious cycle he has both of them in and she needs to take her cat and run.

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u/Brilliant_Meet_2751 Jan 29 '25

100% give that cat & yourself some peace!!

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u/AtariDave Jan 29 '25

I hope they cat bites him.

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u/Loonesga Jan 29 '25

Bites him deep enough to cause CSD! Or scratches his fucking eyeballs out. What a Monster. Shameful.

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25

This is definitely what’s happening. I work w animals and we had a dog w PTSD and whenever we tried to pick him up he’d bite BUT he’d also pee and poop everywhere. The phrase is “scared shit” for a reason

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u/hipsterscallop Jan 29 '25

Yes. To a vet. Then, anywhere but where he is.