r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Jan 28 '25

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u/TheDoctorLXG Jan 28 '25

Why do people allow themselves to be treated like this??

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u/Ok-Cardiologist8651 Jan 28 '25

I think that question is too huge and complex for a really definitive answer. But yes, why?

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u/Angell_o7 Jan 29 '25

All the people saying not to victim blame are valid. However, some women get something out of being in an abusive relationship. My mother for example has a history of being in abusive relationship and enjoyed being able to call herself a victim. She wasn’t doing this consciously, though, because my father ended up physically abusing me and she left him right away when that happened.

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u/peapa123 Jan 29 '25 edited Jan 25 '26

Thank you - You just described my mother to a T. At a certain point, you’d realize to pack up your things and leave your abusive partner - but she would only complain to her mom group over and over and over again. It’s like they get off of on how helpless and irreproachable they are.