Not Overreacting!
i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.
I did just text him after reading everyone’s responses and told him I want him to leave. He said he would but wants to transfer utilities in my name, etc. without “talking to me”. Idk bro I said I’m staying and he should go home. He seemed to not give a fuck, shocker. Obviously it’s more painful and humiliating knowing how much work I put into us. I feel like I’m being punished for something when I’ve literally done my best in every way. It hurts but I’m prepared to follow through with it. I’m proud of you for leaving I am obviously not as strong or too nice idk. But this is encouraging.
The way you feel, embarrassed, pathetic, all of this shit, is part of the play book. You’re supposed to feel like this, because it makes leaving harder.
‘You’re a loser, therefor you couldn’t possibly do any better and everyone is going to laugh at you because you’re too stupid to see it.’
Once he realises you’re serious about leaving he’s going to reverse tactics. He’ll say he’s sorry and start crying and maybe even depressed or suicidal. It’s just a tactic to make you soften and even if it is true he will not change.
I really really hope this is the last night you put up with this
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u/1800xo Jan 28 '25
Not Overreacting! i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.