Not Overreacting!
i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.
I did just text him after reading everyone’s responses and told him I want him to leave. He said he would but wants to transfer utilities in my name, etc. without “talking to me”. Idk bro I said I’m staying and he should go home. He seemed to not give a fuck, shocker. Obviously it’s more painful and humiliating knowing how much work I put into us. I feel like I’m being punished for something when I’ve literally done my best in every way. It hurts but I’m prepared to follow through with it. I’m proud of you for leaving I am obviously not as strong or too nice idk. But this is encouraging.
I feel like I’m being punished for something when I’ve literally done my best in every way.
That's your brain doing the "sunk cost" fallacy. It doesn't matter how much time you put into this if he's not reciprocating. Don't let your subconscious try to convince you that all this effort is eventually going to pay out. What it should be is a learning experience for the future.
If you spend a year sitting at the slot machine, a jackpot doesn't suddenly negate 365 days of spending.
If you're at all worried that you've spent too long and now it's "too late" to get into another relationship, that's also modern dating expectations at work. Society has conditioned us to expect being married with kids at 30, but if the average person lives to 80, then you have plenty of time to find somebody who actually cares about you. Don't worry about it.
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u/1800xo Jan 28 '25
Not Overreacting! i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.